Goddess damnit! End the tryst if necessary. I swear, I can’t post or preview for shit tonight.
Oh, wuvly!
I had an anglo bf who drove me nuts because he’d get pissed if I started saying stuff in Spanish. He’d stop, get off and start yelling. Kind of hard to Relax And Enjoy if you’re having to watch your ohDioSSSSSSSes 
so of course we didn’t last much.
Anything said in bed falls into two categories:
- nonsense noise
- instructions/requests
The “make love to me” can be treated as either nonsense noise or an instruction to go down the path marked “slow and sweet”.
[minor hijack]Nava, your story reminds me of one time I was experimenting with (gasp!) cybersex. I had gotten together with a woman from Mexico whose English was better than my almost non-existant Spanish. I found it interesting to have her “saying” things like “OhDioosss” and “maaassss, maaaasss” and calling me Papito (IIRC).[/minor hijack]
[gentle mod chiding]Just a little over the top for IMHO, don’tcha think?[/gentle mod chiding]
(Slight Hijack) In somewhat the same vein, what are some Doper opinions on passionate kissing while having sex with an FB? In my own encounters, maybe 3/4 of my FB’s were into it, while the rest certainly were not. Does that jibe with everyone elses experience? Or am I committing a FB faux pas? (Slight Hijack)
IMHO, it isn’t good sex if there isn’t some good kissing. Hell, that’s half the fun, in my opinion. I’d be a little puzzled by someone who was comfortable having sex with me, but not kissing me. To me, that would be bizarre.
Glad to hear it. I thought it was a bit strange myself. I can get around it, but it still kind of detracts from the experience.
If you would care to scan and post your copy of the contract (white out any names or such) and we can evaluate your level of caution.
People say crazy shit during sex. One time I called this girl “Mom.”
TellMeI’mNotCrazy
This has been an issue with several partners, FBs and SOs.
It was a matter of distraction. The kissing was hot and heavy during foreplay and up to being on the verge. Then any other stimulus besides genital contact would hinder completion.
I’m just sayin’.
I am a Psychotronic Love Commando, defender of Eros, huntsman of Venus sent to restore the Temple of Love.
Aphrodite is tired of your profanity. You rape her everytime you have sex without Love.
But seriously…
Look, I’m not some prude about sex or anything…far from it. I am just a bit taken aback and continuously dispapointed by what I see as the continous reduction of sex, as opposed to its elevation. I hate to see Love and its natural component sex, diminished.
Sex is sacramental and imbued with great power as the act of procreation. It has an emotional component by default, it is the highest emoter…passion, ecstacy, pleasure. You cannot divorce yourself from sexual emotion with indifference or an artificial agreement… much strife lies here.
So harden yourself if you must, take the natural Love component out of sex, profane the act and remove it from sanctity all you wish.
Quantity is not quality.
Sex without Love is masturbation.
Reduce it to the base animal act if you can… never feel, never commit.
It’s a lonely path and unfulfilling.
Enter the Temple and get yourself right.
Oh, and matt_mcl as far as I’m concerned, sex without Love is limited potentiality by definition.
Mm-hmmm. :dubious:
This jaded fiend says do her. Oh, and ask her to lay off the mushy talk if it freaks you out.
Let me be the first to say, aint nothing wrong wif dat!
Yea, but what’s the point?
What? Are you really buying this stuff? I mean, I can dig if you’re not into fuckbuddies–they’re obviously not for everyone. But what’s all this business about masturbating on a lonely path to the love temple? Oh, sorry. I meant Love Temple.
It may seem unfulfilling to you, but it sure as heck wasn’t to me. You don’t seem to be getting that, though.
Stop it. Stop telling people what they can’t do. Not everyone operates within your sexual paradigm.
(Seriously, mate, get off it. Sex means whatever the participants want it or believe it to mean.)
:eek: That beats me. One time I growled during sex. Completely unintentional, I swear. To his credit, he let me finish before he started teasing me abou tit. Er, about it. 
That’s awful. I love listening to the person I’m having sex with. I wish my bf would vocalize more.
I find casual sex a tricky proposition, beyond a one-night stand. If I like the guy I’m having sex with, then my emotions tend to get carried away. If I don’t like the guy, I don’t want to have sex with him. My solution is to avoid having sex with guy friends that I’m going to get too attached to if we have sex. Unfortunately, a lot of women (I used to be one of them) think that if you can snag the guy through sex, you can lure him in to a more meaningful relationship. Manipulative? Why, yes, extremely. This is why most of my friends are guys.
Duh…pleasure. Ideally mutual. checks to do list
You mean you’re not? Aren’t you the teenaged guy who’s always talking about how hot Paris Hilton is?
Awright. I wasn’t gonna, but I just gotta. I swear this is true.
So I was going down on this woman, which I do with great enthusiasm, and after bringing her to an absolutely screaming climax she moans, pants, and blurts out “You are a GOD!”
Now, this is not something I get told very often. Never, actually, before or since. You should have seen my head pop up from the Altar of Venus when I heard that? “What?” I said, in pure disbelief. “Did you call me…a god??”
I probably should have just let that go completely, but you have to understand my overmastering astonishment. Poor girl. She’s lying there on her back in, you know, that position, me staring at her in wide-eyed amazement, while her post-coital brain unscrambles.
“Uhhhh…I said ‘oh my god’ I think.”
“No, you said I was a GOD! Hah!”
“Get over yourself.”
She then proceded to return the favor, and hit me back with “What, I’m not the goddess, now?” And with 100% po-faced earnestness I replied “You’re better, even!”