Jake, you’re not the only guy she’s having this conversation with. I get that she is the love of your life, but she’s probably having this meaningless and noncommittal back-and-forth simultaneously with about twenty different horny mouthbreathers. She probably can’t tell all of you apart.
So if she seems to suddenly lose interest, it’s not just you that she’s losing interest in. She’s probably just saying “fuck all this” to the entire senseless cacophony for a while, and going away to take a bath. Can you really blame her for wanting a break? And is it reasonable to expect her to give every one of those twenty dudes an individual explanation?
Don’t take it personally.
Of course, there is one time-honored trick for standing out from the crowd: A dick pic. Just an idea.
I forgot a really important part because the conversation was long and i didn’t wanna post it all.
After saying where i lived i asked her “when were you thinking?” her response was “hmm. i’m not sure. i don’t care. whenever. i just am usually free after 9.”
I replied “where would you like to meet at?”
her- “gopd question. any ideas? lol”
me- do you just wanna see me or get something to eat?
her- either or. i’m not picky.
That basically implied she was willing and wanting to see me that night after not that many messages.
“I said she should see me after work” And she didn’t swoon at this date plan you proposed?
“I could play it off really casually” Oh come on, you must be joking, right?
Has it occured to you that maybe she sent a picture of some other girl, and THAT’S why she’s avoiding meeting you, but keen to talk lots. She wants to talk you into really liking her before she reveals what she really looks like maybe?
Dude, she was asking YOU to decide on a place, time, and activity. YOU. That’s the point you should have said “How about we meet at restaurant A at location B at time C?” or whatever it was you wanted to do. “How about we meet at my house for a pizza at X time?”
See, this is the point where you come back with an idea. “Yeah, let’s meet at XYZ’s Pizza. We can have a bite to eat if you like, or just have a beer and talk.”
Or, you know, if all you want to do is have sex, “Yeah, come over to my place and I’ll fuck you till your brains come out your ears!”
But still, this is the point where you offer an idea, not ask more questions.
Evidence suggests that you don’t. I’ll guess that John Mace is in his 40s or 50s, and I’d still bet you money that if he wanted to he could get more dates with 20-somethings than you’ve shown capability of.
Cmon now. Give credit where it’s due. I might have bad social skills, and i might not know what to say to chicks…
But i know from her tone, her style, and from how she talked in some other messages that’s her way of being excited.
“hmm. i’m not sure. i don’t care. whenever”
Means. It doesn’t really matter to me (hang on let me think) yeah, it’s fine. I just wanna see you whenever you can.
Uhm… you’ve never even met this person. “She” could be an overweight 50-year-old guy just fucking with you.
And yet, you come here pleading that you don’t understand what is going on with her. Seems like you don’t know shit about how this one individual communicates.
Aw yeah, she’s so into you and excited and itching to meet up that she… completely stopped responding to you. You’re right, you totally know how to gauge interest.