Good on ya, TVeblen

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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This may seem like mod kiss-ass but I don’t really care because TVeblen deserves a big shout-out for the paragraph below, originally posted by in this pit thread:

So true. I was once accused (in my pre-SDMB days) of being insensitive to a grieving co-worker. It took the death of someone close to me – years later – to understand what she was going through and to feel ashamed of my treatment of her. I wish I had heard your words way back then.

So thank you TVeb, for the short course on being a friend to one in grief and for your kind soul. :slight_smile:

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I, too, appreciated your comments.

It is all too easy to over-react and criticise rather than take into account the pain and circumstances of the other person.

Good on ya :slight_smile:

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Oooh, what a faux pas.

That should have been “ya” in the subject. Ah jeez. :smiley:

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TVeblen … What can I say? Thank you doesn’t seem like enough.

You’re now one of my heros. I’ll forever be grateful!!!

Actually, I feel closer to many people now and feel wanted and safe here - I need a safe place right now.

Thank you everyone!!!

Warm snuggy hugs all around,

Kathy

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Opps, pressed submit to fast…

Thank you for starting this thread Gazelle from Hell!!!

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the heck…

Gazelle, you change your name or what?

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Ah. That would be a yes.

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cadolphin, I’m sorry for your losses, and I’m sorry some people on this board have treated you so insensitively. And TVeblen, good on ye’. :slight_smile:

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My pleasure, cadolphin.

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Just wanted to join the chorus of applause. Love is love, loss is loss, and pain is pain. To belittle these feelings because of the age, gender, race or species of the loved one is just wrong. Thank you for explaining it far more concisely and civilly than I could have done.

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Veb, you’re always classy and kind. You help make the SDMB a better place to visit.

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Very nice post, TVeblen. As others have already mentioned, it’s things like that that keep me coming back here. Thank you.

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I’d give you big snuggles for your post Veb, but I don’t wish to be labeled your stalker again ;).

You are class personified, and if I may use the words of a person I admire…

It is [truly] an honour to share pixels with you. :slight_smile:

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I saw this too, and I’d like to add that I’m glad you took…um…certain people to task for belittling cadolphin.

The only thing is, it looks like that person is having a meltdown in the pit. :frowning:

I’m not this this would help, but maybe some of the people who have posted here can maybe go over there and let her know that although she acted inappropriately, we certainly don’t want her to leave.

I think that would be a nice thing to do. :slight_smile:

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Oops! Nevermind, that thread seems to be locked now. :smack:

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Veb, thank you for your incisive kindness. It’s a rare skill, and much appreciated.

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I believe it was Veb who first taught us about “heart friends.” Worked for me then, still works for me now.

Thanks, Veb.

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I agree. This has all got out of hand and no one’s to blame and I don’t think the poster in question need be left out of the warm snuggly hug thing going on.

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I’m late to this thread, and I missed the thread that spawned it. I was on a “break.”

But I want to say that when I first joined this board, Veb was the first person who made me sit up and say “What a class act!” She has not only NEVER said anything that made me change my mind, she has increased my respect for her with every word I have ever read.

You, Veb, are a beacon to every person who strives to live their life well, giving dignity and worth to others. I am proud to know you. I am eternally grateful that I feel I can call you my friend.

And for Kathy…I am sorry I wasn’t here to help, but I think you know how much I feel for your pain. You are my friend, and I love you. My door is always open, as is my heart. Sometimes people just don’t understand, and that is for them to sort out…it doesn’t take away from YOUR feelings, or your right to FEEL those feelings.

My Love,

Cheri

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Well, I still don’t agree with what went down and I’m wondering why in all the warm fuzzy hugs and stuff, it truly doesn’t seem to matter about the pain of people who didn’t lose cats but who lost children.

I’m still hurting. I’ve emailed with Veb privately and I’ve lost no respect or caring for her but I’m still feeling like if one spews one’s grief all over the board, there’s a big huggy circle but the big huggy circle seems unable to appreciate that the original action caused others pain. Or does that pain not matter?