I am telling you this as a woman: being with a guy who is too large to suck or fuck is NO FUN. At best it’s unsatisfying, and worst it’s painful. I have no idea how your girlfriend presented this encounter to you (or why), but I can almost guarantee that what pleasure she got out of it was purely in the “holy shit, this is like something out of a porno” variety.
I’m hazarding a guess that the reason this bothers you more than the rest of her sexual history is that long-term relationships are normal, healthy, even moral. A stand-alone episode with a big-dicked guy in a youth hostel toilet is “slutty.” It’s hard to see your love as a slut, and it hurts you to imagine her behaving that way. But MOST women behave like sluts from time to time, just like most men do. Sex is fun, she was unattached, it was a fling. Let it stay in her past and honor her for the woman she is now.
You shouldn’t be depressed. Back then, she had a wild, slutty experience with Commander Uberschwantz that sticks in her memory. Now she has you. The Human Tripod gave her what she needed then, and now you are here to provide what she needs now. At the time, she needed white hot, knockdown drag-out monkey sex. Now whe needs security and a paycheck and somebody to watch the kids and rub her feet. Whatever Lord Batter Ram may doing now, I bet he doesn’t have that.
But, Scumpup, what you seem to be missing is that per the OP the Human Tripod DIDN’T give her what she needed then. At the time what she needed was a dick the size of Reuben’s. So what’s to be jealous of?
So, basically the sexual encounter was limited to a hand job at best? She just told you that a fun-sized wang is better than a huge one, because it can do the job. It’s no fun having a humvee if it’s too wide for the two-track!
Hee! Thanks mr bus guy, that’s the best laugh I’ve had in quite a while!
To those wondering how this came up… there were 2 or 3 of occasions a couple of months into the relationship where she insisted on discussing this sort of thing at length. “Full disclosure” she called it, though two years on I know it fell a bit short of that. She just wanted to know every last detail of my sexual history, and felt compelled to recite lots of hers.
It made me profoundly uncomfortable at the time, but I was utterly infatuated with her and would have suffered anything.
I wish I could feel that way. She’s had two kids, put on three stone and had one failed marriage since then, and she strongly feels she isn’t the drop-dead gorgeous stunner she once was. None of that bothers me one jot, but it does bother her. Everything points to me being not Mr Right, but Mr Best-I-Think-I-Can-Get-In-The-Circumstances.
I’m a guy, and it wouldn’t bother me. But I’m not very typical and I feel like a broken record on this board subject with my “Love is love, sex is sex” philosophy
I would agree with WhyNot. Seems like the big dick part bothers you, but the bigger issue is the fact that she wanted this big dick so badly she did it with a guy she barely knew, in a bathroom stall and still remembers it fondly. And of course you’re worried what will happen if she happens to feel particularly frisky and she happens to bump into a guy with a third leg. Will she need it so badly she’ll risk your relationship to have it?
I am curious how this subject even came up.
Also was this before or after her previous marriage?
I’m willing to bet dollars to donuts that 98% of the time when this story comes up in relationships it’s because the man says some insecure thing wanting validation of his penis size, and the woman says something along the lines of “trust me, hon. Yours is perfect. There *is *such a thing as too big and it ain’t fun!”
I don’t see why any guy should have a problem with any attribute of their S/O’s past liasons. And wang size is probably the silliest the thing to get your Fruit of the Looms knotted.
If she has carnal knowledge of (let’s say) 50 guys in her past, the odds are 20-some odd were bigger than you and 20-some odd were smaller. With the exception of one man on the entire planet, for the other +/-2 billion others, there’s always someone out there who’s bigger.
[hijack] Jeebus–the ads are all for sex offenders and molestation support groups.
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I think what might be going on is IF she is feeling not so attractive etc–she is looking back at her former self with sadness, nostalgia and wistfulness. She might be thinking, where did that impetuous, carefree slightly slutty girl go?
You are just in the way, so to speak. I am guessing, but I think she might be missing the risk taker, funlover that she once was.
I adore her kids and don’t mind watching them whenever, but I’m rubbing her feet pretty much every night (she has Plantar Fasciitis). That pretty much sums me up!
Yeah, it’s easy to sit here and be all logical about it. . .“well, that was in the past, she’s with you now”, and “he was too big for a good time anyway”.
But certain things can dwell on the mind. You just can’t erase them. And an image of your SO in the Bathroom Stall with Colonel Mustard and his Lead Pipe is one of them.
Whether it’s rational or not is beside the point.
Since it most assuredly DOES bother some people, and since the benefits of such a discussion are basically non-existent, it’s a topic that should be avoided.
We’re back to the handjob again… I can think of at least three or four other things they could have done there on the spot. More if they had some kind of lubricant. Ye gods, man, have you never perused The Kama Sutra or viewed a bit of porn?
