I was just reminded of this while watching (the truly horrendous) “Burlesque”, in which (the always flawless and fabulous) Stanley Tucci and Cher mention a one night stand they had years before. (he’s gay, she’s straight) And Tucci’s character refers to it as “lovely”.
I had sex with several of my gay friends - in my teenage years (the super 70’s - the only era in human history during which sex was as close to consequence free as possible: great birth control, legal abortion, all known diseases curable) in Hollywood it was just part and parcel of the whole process of growing up and getting in touch with our sexuality, and it was fine.
I’ve also had my share of gay sex, although I don’t consider myself truly “bi” simply because I don’t believe I could ever bond with a woman in the same way I can bond with a man. (Plus I’m seriously into intercourse with people who have genuine penises.)
Very few people are 100% gay or straight, without any ability to enjoy sex with the same/opposite sex. Hence all that gay sex in prison.
Gay guy here never had sex with a woman nor ever wanted too. Though I had two offers, both wanted to reform me. One of the women was a reform Lesbian.
Never had any straight male friends to even think about having sex with. Also didn’t have much of a sex life and it’s been over 10 years since I last had sex and I don’t really miss it.
I had sex with one of my best high school buddies a few years after high school. He was gay but not out yet at that time. Coincidentally, he was also my first kiss when we were both 13.
I’ve had sex with both men and women. I’ve never had gay sex with a straight-guy, I have more respect for my friends than to do that. I have, however, “spooned” with a friend before.
I’m a gold star gay (ie never had sex with a woman). I did have sex with 2 different friends in high school who turned out to be straight. Like TravisFromOR I also did my share of mutual cuddling (& under the covers groping) on sleepovers and the occasionsal school trip with (AFAIK) straight boys.
Another gold-star gay here. I could have sex with a woman only if I put a photo of Nestor Carbonell on the headboard. I’ve had sex with friends (long ago, before I met my partner), but they were already gay and out. It was more common to have sex, then to become friends.
I should also that with both friends we only did oral sex, no fucking. One was really bad at it, the other good. Both of them told me I gave better head than their girlfriends. Come to think of it the latter might be bi, or at least he didn’t have an aversion to kissing. With the other boy we’d jerked off together a couple times. Side-by-side self service at first, later we jerked eachother off. In both cases we were watching straight porno (well at least he was watching straight porn).
I’ve never heard the term gold-star gay until this thread, but I am one. I’ve never had sex with a woman and can’t envision a scenario in which I would (but you never know).
I had sex a few times (proper sex, he was the bottom) with a guy in high school who was never officially out (but lots of us knew) and now has a girlfriend. I think it’s a bit more complicated than was-gay-for-a-while-in-high-school-but-now-is-straight but I haven’t spoken to him directly in years so I guess for all I know he could be straight now, or bisexual and hiding it.
Come to think of it the latter might be bi, or at least he didn’t have an aversion to kissing. With the other boy we’d jerked off together a couple times. Side-by-side self service at first, later we jerked eachother off. In both cases we were watching straight porno (well at least he was watching straight porn).