I’m with Sol on this one. She knew she was wrong and went straight to counseling. That part’s good. Now, some folks have suggested we reverse the gender roles and ask ourselves if we’d be horrified, or if any women would be flirting with a man, and called the guys who were flirting with her pathetic, and further called her pathetic. :eek:
She’s already sought counseling, and she’s working on the issue, that’s all she can do unless the guy’s got medical bills.
Now, before I get too far into this, let me say that everyone who came in here and mentioned the gender reversal to help us understand the situation better, I am highly disappointed, and that’s not what I originally put down there. Now, without rancor, I’ll tell you why.
First, we all read the OP, so thank you for not crediting us with simple reasoning skills.
Secondly, because a man doesn’t deserve to be treated the way you suggest we would treat him. Not if he admitted he had an issue and went to counseling. A man would deserve to be treated like anyone else who was working their way through a problem, and that’s with kindness, and maybe some tough love. Not cheap name calling and not belittling. I think every man in this thread should be disgusted with your behavior, and we should all keep in mind that if this were a man, he wouldn’t be treated like a human being, and we should all keep that in mind before we mention our problems on the SDMB.
Thirdly, since everybody read the OP, why don’t we reserve our judgements against the all growed up adults who came in here and flirted with torie, and just keep those to ourselves, because the last time I checked, where they decide to flirt, and how they decide to do it, and with whom, was their business and not yours.
Lastly, there’s nothing wrong with torie. She’s a human being and she’s got a problem, and she’s working her way through it. She didn’t come in here like she was proud of what she did, and she didn’t come in here with a story of habitual abuse, and she certainly didn’t say she didn’t have a problem. She didn’t beat his kids, she didn’t boil his rabbit, and she didn’t burn the house down with him in it. She had an incident and she’s working on it.
I don’t care what you think of her, she didn’t say it was fine to beat the hell out of him, she didn’t say it was justified because she was angry, nor did she imply that.
Since this is MPSIMS, I’m going to say this as nicely as possible. The concept that you would feel justified in treating a man that way if the genders were reversed makes me sick.