Or so I’m assuming. I’ve been happily divorced for more than 14 years. During our marriage, my (ex) husband cheated on my constantly (from the first month), was verbally abusive, cruel, distanced us from my friends, selfish, well, you get the idea.
After our divorce, he continued his reign of idiocy, only visiting our child (Ben) when it was convenient to him, etc. a couple of examples: *“Ben, this is really important, I’ve joined Promise Keepers, an organization for men committed to being better husbands and parents. Oh, by the way, I won’t be able to see you this weekend, because I’ve made a committment to a friend to take him hunting.” *
he called me once asking me to tell Ben *“the reason I haven’t been calling is 'cause it’s long distance and I’ve been trying to make only the really important calls”. *
Although He would pay his court ordered child support but when it comes for paying his half of medical bills, I would wait, sometimes for a month or more to be repaid $20.
He would tell our son * “if it’s ok with your mom and she says you can come over in the middle of the week, we’ll go fishing” * without consulting me before hand which put me in the place of being the bad guy if there was something else that he had to do.
The kicker was last Spring, when, for the FIRST time in the 14 plus years we’ve been divorced, he arranged to take Ben WITH him on a vacation (drive 1500 miles to stay with his relatives and Ben could see his grandma and great grandma, whom he hadn’t seen in years). But, Ben got sick. they were due to leave on Thursday AM, On Wednesday, we were at the hospital, with Mono + Strep throat + dehydration etc (this was our 3rd trip to clinic/hospital in 4 days). Ben was admitted to the Intensive Care Unit sometime after midnight on Wednesday, having had a surgeon called in at 3 am to evaluate if he needed immediate throat surgery so he could breath, his dad stopped by to see him while we were at the er. His dad left, as scheduled on Thursday am, while our son was in the ICU, in critical condition.
So, you see, I kept on thinking my opinion of him couldn’t get worse, and he’d prove me wrong.
But, here’s the kicker: Recently, I think he was switched by aliens or something. He has handed Ben $80 towards school clothes, AND TOLD ME ABOUT IT. First time ever he’s helped with school clothes, AND realized he should tell me, too? He also told me that Ben’s asking to stay with him (dad) once he’s out of high school (more like visiting more often), and his dad said * “we’ll have to talk with your mom first”.*
I’m in shock. Hell has officially frozen over. what’s next? Politicians turning money away?