They’ve been married 50 years. Today is her 70th birthday. And no presents - no “Happy Birthday, Dear” - he packs a bag, gets in his truck, and leaves.
She says she feels as if a weight has been taken off her shoulders. And she’s calling the bank to put a hold on the account. And these are not the healthiest people here. She has heart trouble and he’s got artificial knees and diabetes.
They haven’t talked in several days, since she complained about the heat in the house. Did she tell him she was having a hotflash? Nope. Did he tell her he was cold because of the blood thinners? Uh-Uh. Just made a snarky comment and slept in another room. Then didn’t speak to each other at all yesterday. Today, they get up, go to the post office, come home and he leaves.
You have to understand. My parents are masters of passive-aggresive emotional blackmail. (As is reflected in us, their four children - We love them, but don’t like them very much. And we definately do not want them moving in with any of us.) Just after they got married, he stormed out with her sobbing and screaming after him. He was gone for 3 months but he eventually comes back. He’s been threatening this ever since. He tried to leave on my 13th birthday, but couldn’t go through with it. (I was more concerned about not being allowed to have a slumber party than him not being there.)
I really feel that they would benefit from being apart for a while. But I am just bewildered. How can you live with someone so long and not talk to them? How can you be attached at the hip and go with each other everywhere and just up and leave?