Hell Week in the MMP

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I haven’t been around much lately. I’ve got a lot going on.

We’re selling the house we just moved into because my daughter’s disability makes a 2-story house impractical.

We’re living with my parents while we wait for the next house.

My mother has a heart condition that was caused by rheumatic fever as a child. Her condition is getting worse. She’s being offered options that include a chance of death ranging from 30-50%. Of course, the implication is that doing nothing would be even worse.

My mother-in-law was robbed by a member of the family with a gambling problem. She essentially has no savings left to live on. He also opened loans and credit cards and didn’t pay those, so she’s tremendously in debt. He and his wife set up and control access to all these accounts, and her health insurance, and her prescriptions, and Social Security. We’re covering her expenses.

My daughter’s school is refusing to provide her with home hospital during the time that she is unable to attend due to illness. We’ve gotten a lawyer.

My disabilities are worsening. I’ll leave it at that.

I have ruptured another disk in my back and likely need surgery.

That sets the stage. On to my week.

Monday was taxes. Ours were fine, but I realized that my mother-in-law’s taxes had to be done. I mentioned that we don’t have access to a great deal of information, so it was a bit of a sprint to get through it. The “good” news is that her income is so low that she’ll get a refund.

Tuesday, my daughter’s dog came home from a walk screaming in agony. Her eye had ruptured. The night and next morning was spent at the emergency vet getting her more comfortable.

Wednesday I found an ophthalmologist who could see Star immediately. Diagnosis - both eyes had to be removed. All of the issues with the dog meant that we missed medical appointments for the kids and an appointment with my daughter’s school.

Thursday my daughter tried to go back to school for the first time since October. Her doctor recommended that we start slow. She was there for one period only, and her symptoms intensified. We’re waiting to try again once she can walk without holding onto a wall.

Friday my dog had both eyes removed.

Saturday night I did not sleep.

Sunday was Easter. Everyone came over here, and we had a lot of fun. My kids played with their cousins and we all laughed and teased and told bad jokes. The end of my bad week was a wonderful day with family.

tl;dr Life is crazy and stressful. Easter reminded me of the bonds of family and gives my hope that things will get better.

Topic: When things are hard in life, what do you lean on to get through it?

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First! It’s good to be juvenile!:smiley:

Good Mornin’ Y’all! Up and caffeinatin’. YAWN ‘Tis 48 Amurrkin out and clear (well, dark) with a predicted high of 83 and N.O.S. for the day. The big item on today’s agenda is to give da cave a spiff. Actually the place is not all that bad as I had given it a little spiff up Sattidy due to company comin’ yestiddy. Sup shall be leftovers from the big Easter feast. I foresee sloth this afternoon.

{{{Sunny}}} hell week indeed! Hope y’all are able to sell your house and get back into your own place soon. Hopefully there will be some treatments to improve your mom’s condition or at least make her comfortable. Anyway for any legal actions against the family member who did this to your MIL? Stay after ‘em re your daughter. The school system can and must accommodate her needs. Poor doggie, hope she’s feelin’ better as well. OYKW and I call each other our emotional support animals. Also, sis and I like to talk and bitch about everyone and everything we’re unhappy with. Amazin’ how that helps!

Now I need more caffeine and rumbly tummy demands sustenance. Then, onward into the day. Rah.

Happy Moanday Y’all!

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Booze. Lots and lots of booze to get through bad things. Just kidding.

Hugs Sunny. I hope things settle down for you soonest and everyone feels better.

Awake but not up. I don’t wanna today.

MOANDAY indeed.

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Up, caffeinated, and sheveled. Off to work. Today is my Firday.

{{{{Sunny}}}}} That is a lot on your plate.

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{{{Sunny}}} I know you aren’t seeking advice, but have you considered contacting a group that deals with elder abuse regarding you MIL? I don’t know if those operate on a county or state level, but it could be a valuable resource. Regardless, good thoughts headed your way.

My spousal unit and I lean on each other in tough times, and I come here to whine if needed. We haven’t had anything near as bad as outlined in the OP, but you never know - life happens. In the meantime, we just keep on keepin’ on.

Some chores on my plate, but I think we’re going to start the day with a McBreakfast.

Happy Moanday!

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{{{{{Sunny}}}}}. I haven’t had a week that bad in a long time, hope it gets better for everybody and that you find the house that works for all.

Not much going on, bright and clear today, 50F going to the mid-70’s. Some housecleaning needs to be done, I may have to take the step of Making A List, since that seems to get me into action. Also need to get a stool sample for the Cologuard people and UPS it (they do make it very easy to do).

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**Butters **- I didn’t want to put this in last week’s MMP, so here’s the scoop. Grayson is a little chunk - he always has been. He’s a month younger than Roxy and he’s in 18-24 month clothes. :eek: He’s not walking yet, but his mom expects him to figure it out in the next week or two. He’s got (to quote his mom) two teeth and two fangs. :eek: Meanwhile, Roxy remains toothless. Oh, and he’s terrified of my daughter’s pug, of all things!

As for peeling eggs, mine had sat in the fridge for a couple of weeks, so they were well-aged. :smiley: Immediately after boiling, I chill them with ice water, then I peel them right away. A few were starting to fight me, so I replaced the cold water with warm, and all the rest peeled just fine. Other times, all did well with ice water. I don’t know. But I do prefer to peel them as soon as they’ve cooled from cooking.

We’ve run a few errands and I’ve got our electric blanket in the washer. It’s going out on the line to dry because it’s a loverly day! Then it’ll get stored in the top of my closet till next winter. Guess it’s officially spring now! :smiley:

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Posted in the previous MMP thread:

I thought I’d finish the platform/deck/floor/whatever you call it yesterday. I went down to the hardware store for some plywood, and found them closed. Some sort of holiday yesterday, I guess.

Anyway, here’s what’s done: The corner piers (with the brackets), two non-bracket piers on each side and the front and back (2 each) are in, the side boards are nailed in, the end boards are cut, and everything is level. I still need to dig four holes for the piers in the middle, which will support the two 2x6s there. Once that’s done and the boards are on, I just need to nail everything together, lay down the plywood, paint the thing with deck paint, and wait for the canopy shed to arrive. I was going to dig the holes, place the boards, and do the nailing after work today, but it’s going to be raining today and tomorrow.

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Happy Moonday!

It’s cloudy and chilly today.

Something I ate yesterday isn’t sitting so well in the tummy today.

Niece1 hasn’t seen my son for a while, and the first words out of her mouth was Oh WOW! I love your hair! His thick, black waves are more than halfway down his back. The look on my mother’s face was priceless. She hates his hair, so of course I had to say, doesn’t he have the most beautiful hair.

He should enjoy it while it lasts, he already is getting grey hairs, and he will be 24 this year.
I guess he will eventually have long grey curls halfway down his back.
Unless he goes bald, which I doubt.
Had some truck trouble on the way home, nothing mechanical, but the bed cover came loose and was flapping in the breeze. I finally found a place to pull over and my son secured it, only to have it come loose again. So I got off at the next exit and had him roll it up and secure it.
We’ll have to go out and figure out what is wrong with it, but probably not today since it is supposed to rain.

My week was nowhere as near as bad as yours, {{{Sunny}}}. I have a lot of irritations going on, but they are all minor.

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Humor; often a dark gallows style humor but basically finding any little chance to laugh. When my BIL killed himself we had to have the body flown home and my MIL was shocked at the expense. She remarked that with all his airline “miles” we should have just brought him as carry-on luggage. I had to point it that in this case it would have been more like “carrion luggage”. :smack: At the time it actually helped us all out. I get the trait from Dad’s side of the clan — its a trait common to all of us. That and chanting “Jehovah! Jehovah! Jehovah!” since “Life of Brian” came out.
But plenty of hugs you way Sunny ----- do whatever works to get through.

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{{Sunny 'n Family}}

And I thought I was having a stressful day having discovered that I don’t have 2 assignments due on Wednesday, I have 3 (the third is only a short ‘reflective review’ of one of the others, I’d just missed it in the handbook), which I’m dealing with mostly by eating large quantities of discount chocolate. I don’t know how I’d deal with a week like that… Badly, I suspect.

I’m being a bad bee mummy; I really should have checked them today, but I horribly overslept, then discovered I had an extra writeup to do, so I haven’t. I do have one day left of Easter break, and I’d be pretty amazed if they did swarm for at least another month or so, which is what I’d be checking for.

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Thank you for the well wishes everyone. It helps. Sorry for the massive info dump. I guess I was both venting, and letting y’all know what’s going on, since I’ve been so quiet.

Update on Star: she’s a champ. She’s moving around her room confidently. She’s happy to “see” everyone and wants cuddles and scratches. She’s eating well. All in all, I think this is the best outcome for her and she seems to be feeling much better.

Johnny I admire your ability to build things like that. I’m fairly handy, but I haven’t built a deck. I’d like to though. I think it might be fun (or satisfying).

kopek I/we tend to black humor as well. The correct line from that movie, however, is “I’m not”, promptly chanted when anyone speaks of individuality. :

Happy Moanday!

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Best wishes to you and your family. I’m glad your dog is coping well.

Neither have I. :stuck_out_tongue:

I’m hoping my car will be finished today. I’d like to drive it to Seattle tomorrow.

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Afternoon all. I shipped some shit.

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Well, actually it was a stool sample taken (rather easily and without any mess) via the Cologuard kit I got, and sent at their expense (although I think Medicare will end up picking up the bill) via UPS air. But it sounds a whole lot cooler the first way.

Sunny, you just vent here anytime you need to. That’s what friends are for (or so I’ve heard…)

Nut, bees have been around for millions of years; I’ll hazard a guess they’ll get along for a couple of days while you finish your projects.

Sari, hope the bed can be re-attached easily.

FCM, saw the pictures and film of the party; Roxi is cute as a bug (as the old saying goes) and her cousin is certainly going to be a big young lad.

Soccer will occur this afternoon, and think I’ll have my great big bowl o’sallit for dinner.

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The ‘around’ is the potential problem- it ain’t that they’ll die without attention, it’s that they may swarm, with half of 'em clearing off :wink:
'Tis the season for it.

(It occurs to me that the ‘birds and the bees’ includes one of the more silly animals to choose for a discussion on sex lives. ‘Well, one day you may meet a really nice boy, he’ll mate with you, losing his genitals in the process, along with maybe another dozen males. You’ll then settle down, chasing your mother out of the house, killing her if she doesn’t go, and produce up to 1000 daughters a day, along with the odd son, who your daughters will then murder if they survive until autumn’).

Yeah, I should be working on my homework.

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How does one induce them to not swarm, a month’s free rent? :dubious:

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Basically by moving part of the colony to a new hive, so they think they must have swarmed, are too embarrassed to admit they don’t remember moving, and stay put.

Then you can either recombine the two later in the season (having regicided the old queen, or letting them pick which one to keep), or simply keep them as two colonies. If you just let them go, not only do have you lost 'em, something like 85% of swarms that go it alone don’t make it through their first winter in the UK. There’s not many suitable places for them to live.

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The sun came out so we went to the park, instead of doing what needs to be done around here.

The internet is coming and going today.
Very annoying.

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:slight_smile:

There aren’t enough areas growing plants?

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Not so much the food- actual places to build a colony. Hollow trees and suchlike are in surprisingly short supply, and bees tend to wind up in places like post boxes, cavity walls and chimneys, or just straight out in the open hanging from a tree or something. The lucky ones get collected, the unlucky ones get poisoned or otherwise dedded when the weather turns cold and wet.