I don’t know. I think it’s a valid idea. One individual bullies another. The bullied individual calls for social support and society tells the bully it collectively disapproves of his bullying. Invoking social disapproval is a valid means of correcting bad behavior. It’s essentially what Martin Luther King did after all.
It may not have the immediate gratification of “if somebody calls you a name, you just punch them in the nose” but it does work.
The Black person facing racism has recourse as a Federally Protected Class unavailable to an overweight person. And the author might have substantial student loan debt.
Science!
This.
Also if you have the time or inclination for this kind of navel gazing as to what it means to be an x in tech then you probably don’t belong in tech. All the best people I know in tech are way too into what they do to even bother considering what it means for them on some identity shit.
I see that she’s forsaking a career in science for a career in advocacy. Which I assume means “fat-acceptance” or something like that. Oh yeah, the money will be rolling in for that.:rolleyes:
I’m FriarTed & I am a fatty fat fatso.
There should at least be some effort put in, like asking if having her own Lagrange points helps her organize her home.
Sorry, lady, but boo-fucking-hoo. Life sucks - get a helmet.
The best revenge is living well. Make yourself successful in your profession and tell the naysayers to fuck off. Otherwise, you’re nothing but a quitter.
While I’m sure this woman has studied science, I suspect she hasn’t studied much of the history of science. Plenty of scientists have experienced bigotry due to their race, sex, sexual orientation, social class, religion, and probably other factors I haven’t mentioned yet, and nevertheless went on to make valuable contributions to human knowledge.
Wait wait wait… a WOMAN doing SCIENCE? What is this madness? 
A helmet? How does that help?
Madness is a BA in biology interviewing for a job while the Ma’s and PHD’s are waiting tables.
She lost me at graduating with a BA in Biology from a “prestigious” private liberal arts college.
It means she can wallow in her self pity professionally.
Feel like? You are in charge of your own emotions, monstro. I can’t help how you feel.
Now if you’d like to talk about your opinions and changing those, then you should be aware that thinking and feeling are two different things.
:dubious: Since when is “this person is full of it” an emotion? In case you didn’t know, feel can be used to mean holding a belief or impression. “I felt I could do more for the cause here” “I feel you don’t particularly care for me” and so on.
I think I’m missing some information here; namely, just how overweight are we talking here? Scientists run the gamut, but we’re not generally talking about a demographic that’s known for being svelte. So if you’re standing out on a basic of your physical conditioning, you’re probably on the far end of the bell curve. I generally agree that a 22 year old just graduating from college should not be morbidly obese. Overweight, sure, but if you’re generating comments from co-workers (and they may be concerned comments – scientists are also not always known for being as socially adept as they could be), then maybe you do have a problem.
But regardless of her actual weight, giving up a scientific career because of your weight is like giving up a career in professional football because your eyes are blue. It’s just not a relevant consideration unless you make it one. So if you’re quitting, it’s because you didn’t want to be there in the first place.
I have to admit that posts like this are funny.
Did this part strike anyone else as being unscientific?:
Ok - I get that losing weight is very hard - most people are not successful - it is complicated - and whatnot, but the “how do you know I’m not?” shows a lack of understanding about human nutrition. I am not saying it is her “fault” that she is eating at least that much - but she “knows” she is eating at least that much based on what we know about calories in and calories out.
Not saying that she should have been told that or that it wasn’t rude.
Well, there’s the satisfaction of being able to blame others for your quitting, in addition to not wanting to have been there in the first place.
Yeah, “feel like” is my grammar touchy point. It’s so ubiquitously used incorrectly, it impedes communication and makes things unclear. I don’t *think *beliefs or opinions are emotions. They are thoughts. One could say “I believe” or “I think” and those would both be perfectly accurate, but IMO, I think “I feel” should only be used when:
• Referring to a tactile sensation, “I feel clean,” “This bun bun feels soft and fluffy.” “I feel for tumors in my own breasts.”
• Referring to a statement of health, “I feel great!” “I don’t feel so well.”
• Referring to emotions, “I feel sad.” “I feel happy.” “I feel suspicious.” “I feel angry.”
“Help me feel like…” indicates a plea to assist the OP in changing one of the three above things, and her opinion of someone else’s bullshit are none of these things.