To start I have two boys already ages 3 and 2. Both were not planned on pregnencies, meaning we didn’t use protection but we weren’t working on the specific goal of fertilization.
Second I do want another little one but not right that this moment.
Now Qveenpengvin wants another. I have been told in no uncertain terms that all next week we will be working on getting her pregnant. Now the process is not the problem, just the fact she has turned it into a chore.
I’m not even certain that it is a good idea at this time.
What do I do? I’m not sure I can say no to her but…
See if any of your friends with newborns would like her to babysit so they can have a night out. Preferably smelly, loud, obnoxious newborns, if there is such a thing to be found.
'course, this one can backfire on you, big-time, but hey. If you know what you’re doing, it’s not an adventure. At least your newborn won’t be smelly, loud, and obnoxious, so it’ll be a much better experience in comparison.
If the situation was reversed, and you were trying to make her get pregnant despite her reluctance, there’d be understandable and justifiable outrage. Her forcing you into fatherhood again is no different and no less objectionable.
If you don’t want a baby right now, you’re going to have to learn to say no to her. And your wife has got to learn to respect you. You’re no more a sperm factory than she is your personal servant.
For the sake of your relationship with your wife and your next child, this is a decision both of you are going to have to agree upon.
I agree with AudreyK. If you don’t want a kid, you shouldn’t have another. You might grow into wanting the new child, you also could end up resenting your wife and the baby.
Just explain to her that you DO want another one, just not right now. Tell her your current children are young and it tires you out, whatever, but make sure she understands it’s not what you want right now.
And don’t let her pressure you into it. That’s fighting dirty and that’s not what true love does.