First, I tried to do a search on this, but for what ever reason it wouldn’t work. It just kept looping around back to the search page.
A little background on how this thread came about and why I bought the book. Over a month ago I went out with this guy we will call Mitch. The date was probably the best date I have ever been on in my life. It was amazing. At the end of the date we talked about going out again and not only how well we got along but how much fun he had. Yada Yada Yada. The next day we talked. Texted. Even talked a bunch of times on the phone as weeks continued. About a week later while on the phone he told me that while he was in another state for for work that weekend he was offered a potential opening at the beginning of the new year. He was pretty open about the fact that he liked me but that he wanted to take things slow.
Got it. Slow. During another conversation I said something along the lines of, “If I’m already aware of the potential of you moving further away (He already lives about 2 hours away from me, but is generally in the area often) what is the problem? We’re both adults.” He said that while he does like me, he really wants this job and if he gets this job he doesn’t want to have to choose between that and who ever he is dating. His exact words were, “I couldn’t be able to work over there when my mind is some where else.”
So I talked to my friend about this and she suggested I read this book called “He’s just not that into you.” If you have never heard of this book, here are some excerpts of it. The book pretty much says that guys like to chase and if a woman makes it to easy for them they will loose interest. There are many examples and while I was reading this I was beginning to learn that I make it to easy for a guy. If they hit on me and I am interested, I tell them. I’m pretty blunt and not into games.
Per this book, I should tease a little. Toy with him, in some ways. Is this true for most guys? Do you really like the chase? Do you hate it when a girl makes it to easy for you? I’m not talking about sex or putting out, I am talking about getting the number and how easily they may or may not give you their attention.
Do you get annoyed when you talk a few times, but they text you? What exactly are the rules to this game? And is Greg even close to being right? Am I going to have to wait for the guy to come to me, ask me out and actually call?