Reminds? Meaning you actually saw that? You paid money to see it?
Son, I am disappoint.
Divorce him and move out. Whimsical, unpredictable things like that are what make a relationship exciting.
I think excitement in long-term relationships is overrated. You’re not going to keep the new relationship energy going long-term, no, but if that’s the part you like you shouldn’t be getting into relationships anyway. I’m not bored waking up next to the same woman every morning just because I’m accustomed to her.
So, I mean, I somewhat dispute the premise of the question. Happy comfortable relationships exist.
I somewhat agree, but it depends on what you consider ‘‘romantic.’’ My marriage is very comfortable and in some respects is quite mundane in the ‘‘peeing with the door open’’ sense, but I still get butterflies when I look at him, a part of me still feels giddy and in love. We tell each other that we love one another, we cuddle, we pay one another thoughtful compliments, we have a very intimate relationship. Some people would consider that romantic, and I suppose I consider it romantic too. But we’re not always coming home with flowers and greeting cards - some people would define romance as those sort of dating behaviors that happen in the beginning of a relationship, during the infatuation stage.
OP, how do you define romantic?
Excitement? I’m too damn old for excitement.
I do second the advice to go out on dates. Doesn’t have to cost anything, even just a walk together when you can each bitch about work counts.
We watched it during our Netflix free trial, so it was free! WooHoo! I didn’t pay for it!
It was awesome, though. So very, very bad. 
We are in our 40’s both and there are no children from previous relationships, nor are they any planned for ours. We like our solitude way too much and I, for one, am too selfish with my time to have a child.
Every once in a while, scratch his back. Probably not as nice as a BJ and a cookie, but guys appreciate stuff like that.
And if he ever wants to scratch yours, let him!!
I would be cooking dinner and my GF would say, “Let me take care of that for you”. She would grab my hand and lead me into the bathroom, bend over and lift her skirt. She was fabulous for starting the sex going. I never really knew if she enjoyed it or she just knew that I loved it. It didn’t matter. So, IMHO the answer to keeping the romance alive, I would say is, “grab the ball, and run with it”.
Slip a love note into his briefcase on random days.
No matter how busy you are, never end a day without having spent some leisure time together. That could even be doing chores like cooking or shopping or laundry, but be doing them together, and happily.
Never ever EVER be angry at him and expect him to figure it out on his own, or by dropping “subtle hints.” Don’t take it personally as if “if he can’t tell on his own, he must not really care about me.” Just tell him so he can apologize/explain, you can get past it and get back to loving one another.
Find humor in every disaster (that doesn’t genuinely hurt anyone).
Have kids and smile at the comic relief they provide. See the immediately above tip, especially re: kids.
Almost eighteen years married, and the romance just gets more and more alive every day.
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I… justdon’t…wha…but..
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You have to make sex exciting-like when you were 18! Take the tiome for a nice session of lovemaking…and follow up with dinner.
I love going out with him, I love staying in with him, watching a movie on TV and eating oranges. I love having sex with him, which we do often.
It’s not that I want or need more “romance”; I think I am just going through a phase of feeling insecure, wondering if I can really keep someone interested in me for years and years, especially someone whose previous marriage ended at the 7-year point. I just want to put in the effort, from the beginning, to keep things strong and healthy.
You’re in love. 
Yes, happy long-term relationships do exist. I think, for us, it’s all about respect and consideration. So much of love is doing stuff for the other person even when you don’t feel like it, because you know it’s in their best interest. It could be as subtle as going for Chinese instead of Mexican or as profound as taking care of a lover who is seriously ill. While the grand gestures mean a lot, I do think a lot of it comes down to the day-to-day patterns of behavior, the ‘‘little’’ things. It sounds like you have got things worked out pretty well right now. Keep doing that… even when you don’t feel like it. Because you will reach a point, a bad day, a bad month, a bad year, where you don’t feel like it anymore. I guess it’s like any long-term goal - losing weight, sticking to a budget, whatever… consistency is key.
I think some couples over-rely on their immediate feelings as indicators of how to behave in a relationship. Me, I sort of have this mental code of conduct and I try to stick to it no matter what. You’re bringing him cookies now, sure - but will you bring him cookies when you’re pissed off at him? Or will you try to punish him and change his behavior by withdrawing your affection? IME, the latter will do damage to a relationship. If you can still find the ability to be tender even in your darkest moments then you can build something that will last.
Here are some oldies-but-goodies from the world’s foremost expert on romance, Gregory J. P. Godek, author of Romantic Fantasies & Other Sexy Ways of Expressing Your Love.
-Pretend you’re vacationing foreigners who don’t speak any English. Have fun asking directions and ordering in restaurants while pretending not to understand English.
-Watch “Mad About You”–the most romantic show on TV.
-Play miniature golf… while dressed in your wedding gown and tuxedo!
-Make love with your eyes closed.
-Try making love as quickly as you possibly can. Time yourselves! Try to improve on your time every few months.
-Who is your partner’s favorite celebrity? Go out and buy one of those life-sized cardboard stand-up figures. Set it up in your bedroom. Pretend that celebrity is watching your lovemaking session. Or–pretend that you are that celebrity.
And there’s plenty more where that came from.
You’re welcome.
I would say the whole “don’t drop subtle hints and expect that to e sufficient” thing isn’t so much romance as general relationship advice for all gender mixes.