Had to go out in the car twice today. I think a large part of the driving population received a large box of stupid for Christmas. Never had so many close calls nor observed so much dim-witted behavior.
His mom said he was the same way with his ex.
She stuck around a long time, maybe because he was helping raise her son
To review some recent rants: last time I went grocery shopping I came home with the Mysterious Disappearing Eggnog, which has still not been found. The previous time, I came home without my wallet. But it turns out that the last trip was worse than I thought.
As I was backing out of the garage and down the driveway today, the steering felt a little off. I was just going down the street so didn’t give it much thought. But as I left the store and approached my car in the parking lot I noticed that one of my almost-new all-weather tires was seriously under-inflated. I got new tires because the Chinese crap I had before was slow-leaking, and now one of my new Firestones is doing the same. I assume it’s a nail or something I ran over and is repairable, but there’s no place I can take it the weekend before the New Year. Damn lazy slackers with their goddam holidays – us deserving retired folks just can’t catch a break. It will have to wait until sometime in 2024.
Not that it’s any of my business… but that man doesn’t need a wife.
That man needs a gelding.
Not sure what you mean.
I agree with the “Look for friends, not lovers”. Friends are a lot better for your self-esteem, and it’s the “natural” way… get to know people, do fun stuff with them, make them food, let them feed you, go shopping, walking…
I have friends (both major genders) that I hang out with at a coffee shop. If I see their cars nearby, I know i can walk in, plunk myself down, and immediately be part of an interesting conversation.
(Or, like today, I drove past, thinking “Glad I didn’t stop for coffee, I’d’ve been in there for hours, and I need to get stuff done!”)
But these people will never treat me like crap, or belittle me, and I’ll never become unhealthily dependent on them… or even feel obligated to buy them an espresso.
This is such a great post.
Many years ago, I knew a psychologist who imparted this bit of wisdom:
“The only difference between how you treat your lover and your best friend should be sex.”
At first, I thought that was nuts. But the more I considered it, I realized it was true. Why would I treat my lover with less respect, trust or generosity than I treat my best friend?
And for you, @SuntanLotion, why should you tolerate someone treating you with such rude disregard and thoughtlessness? You wouldn’t put up with it from your best friend. Why are you putting up with it from this jerk?
He is a jerk. He’s showing you that every day.
@digs gives good advice. Look for friendships with men, nothing more. Friendships that catch fire are the very best love relationships, IMHO. It takes time to develop them. And it requires that you respect yourself first.
Don’t let people treat you like garbage.
My Mini-Rant for the day: Today I dug a sock out of my dog’s throat.
Thirty minutes later, I dug a hair scrunchie out of my dog’s throat.
I don’t know where he finds these items, but he does.
I will lie awake tonight wondering what he’s eaten that I didn’t catch.
Excellent advice, and said way better than I did, although the resultant advice to drop the jerk is the same. 
The word “gelding” as a noun is a castrated horse. The word “gelding” as a verb is the process of castrating a horse.
This comment:
means that poster suggests somebody should castrate this idiot guy you’ve suddenly fallen for. Perhaps it’ll mellow his harsh.
You might consider whether you have a dented or leaking wheel. If you have old-fashioned steel wheels, a serious pothole can create visible or invisible dents in the rim that prevent the tire bead from sealing fully. Resulting in a slow leak. If you have alloy wheels, those can develop nearly invisible cracks that manifest as slow leaks. Or you might have a prankster nearby.
Good thought, but the tires have been fine since I got them sometimes before the fall of 2022, so well over a year now, and one is suddenly deflating. I think it’s just the rotten luck I’ve been having every single time I go anywhere. In any case, I have a portable air compressor for the time being and the problem will be investigated by the same tire place that sold me the tires.
I know they’re honest because prior to the tire purchase, when I was there a few years ago, I drove up on a donut spare when yet another Chinese tire bit the dust and I’d been driving on a completely flat (rear) tire for blocks before another driver clued me in at a stoplight. I said that the tire was probably shot, but they said no, it’s just fine and repairable. As indeed it was, and has been fine ever since.
Maybe she needs Hugh Jackman to settle that guy…
He also thinks Mr. T should be president. I had first thought he meant the guy from the A team. Nope. Also he was upset that I’d been vaccinated.
I’ve been you, @SuntanLotion. I still don’t know how to help you. It comes when you’re ready.
And if its a “Hugh Jackman” you want, you might might want to think about what dance steps you can try to get his attention.
Q: Have you ever heard of “Shakira”?
( I may be an ass, but their wedding dance would be PHENOMINAL…! )
Ok, now I’m stumped. There’s another guy wearing scads of jewelry with quotes like “I pity the fool!” out there? Or has the A-Team show been regurgitated on streaming somewhere?
I’m getting behind in the culture, I think.
They mean Trump.
Obvious, now that you point it out. I’d put him so far out of my mind that I didn’t even think of that “T”.
Well, ya got trouble, my friend, right here,
I say, trouble right here in Every City
Trouble that starts with “T”
With girls that “P” (and wearing diapers for Stool) !