How badly did I screw up?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I am more than willing to admit I had not had sex in some time. A bit more than 4 months short of 10 years to be more accurate. Some of this has been willing. Ever since I started working out about 2 years ago, I have had many chances and offers. I think it was becoming a thing of pride.

Well, yesterday was my birthday, and a series of events led me to a situation where I ended the chances of me reaching the decade mark. Some people would be happy about this, I guess, and I was yesterday. Today, though, I am having second thoughts.

The girl is pretty. I can’t say that I have optimistic outlook on the future of our relationship, but I can say that I enjoy her company. (she is the 23 year old drama queen for those that have knowledge of my previous post on this girl) I don’t think our personalities will work in the long haul, and she pretty much feels the same way- as several comments about her “Scaring you off,” or “thinking I am too crazy” have popped up.

10 years- what an accomplishment, and ruined for a birthday fling. (I turned 27 yesterday).

To make matters worse, I didn’t use my brain at the time, and neglected to use a condom. Ok, the pregency thing doesn’t frighten me too much- I am sure my sperm count is low due to lack of use, she claims she is on birth control, and I never actually “came.” Nervousness on my part I am sure- I surely expected the whole Forest Gump thing to happen, but nope. I wasn’t thinking of anything else at the time I guess- I have known her for over 6 months and she told me she has only been with two guys. Now I have my doubts.

No, no fire in the groin or anything, I guess that is a good sign. Not enought though. Today I visited her up at work, and she mentioned her roommates. Some background here:

She has two roommates, a female co-worker, and a gay male she has known for a long time. The female co-worker is apparently a goodie two shoes, and they nicknamed her “bible-thumper.” Not entirely funny I know, but it isn’t because she is overly religious, she just isn’t as wild as them. It was mentioned that they were going to write “Two whores and a bible thumper” on the door, sort of a personalized name plate. Now apparently her other roommate is very promiscuous, but the joke implies that she is as well. Which certainly goes against what she told me. (nearly 6 months ago, but could she have turned whore in 6 months?)

Now, I could just be paranoid about an innocent joke, but this is bugging the crap out of me. Nearly 10 years of a mix of luck and good thinking ruined by one time? Or just me being silly? Did I screw up badly?

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Well, if you really had a goal of going 10 years without sex then you screwed up 100%.

If your goal was to have sex without a great possibility of either causing pregnancy or contracting an STD, then you screwed up about 80%. If you’d have had an orgasm I’d have said you bumped it up to about 95%.

If your goal was to fuck a slut then you screwed up 0%.

Although to be brutally honest I haven’t a clue from your post what you’re actually worried about.

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Calm down, calm down, now. Some girls of the wilder-crazier-Theatre-esque types would take pride in being called a “whore”. I’m sure it’s just a joke.

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This is what worries me of course. Slut implies multiple partners, mulitple partners imply higher chance of STDs.

Spoofe’s post consoles me a bit I guess.

But your right OTTO- about the screwing up 100% on the missing my 10 year goal. Not what I am worried about though, certainly not something I would lose sleep over.

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Hey man, I got wasted at Spring Break, double teamed a slut with my room mate with no condom on (whose name I don’t know), and I was fine. You’re probably alright, but go to the doctor and have him draw some blood and stick that nice little Q-tip up your penis, at least as a courtesy to the next person you sleep with (you can honestly say you’re STD-free.

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Is her name “Up”?

Did she say you were bad?

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Low sperm count due to lack of use???
WHAT???

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Dude… after nearly ten years, can you honestly say it wasn’t worth it even if bad things happen?

You’ll be fine.

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The “whore” thing is a joke. Most likely she meant it in comparison to the “bible-thumper” roommate, compared to whom everyone would seem promiscuous.

But don’t laugh it off. Always, always, always use a condom. Unwanted pregnancy’s the biggest thing you have to be concerned about, but it’s far from the only thing. There’s also all kinds of STD’s you need to worry about. Never forget how freaked out you feel right now, and think of that every time you’re about to get hot and heavy. You’re not in the habit of having them around, but get in that habit.

And happy birthday!

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You wait ten years for a screw and you took the bottom position, badly?

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What are you?

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A really pathetic specimen of a human being…THAT’s what he is.

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At first I misread this and thought you’d ruined a ten-year relationship. In which case, I was going to be sorta sympathetic.

But you ruined your goal of going ten years without getting any.
:confused: Isn’t a ten year dry spell considered slightly on the long end? Don’t most people try to avoid going ten years between sexual encounters?

If you didn’t make her come, you screwed up. Otherwise, you had unprotected sex with a girl who was using birth control. If she’s at risk for STDs, then it’s not a great idea, but despite what the sex police may say, you’re not a bad person if you make a decision that you’d rather take the risk than wear a condom.

I guess I’d understand better if I could hear the reasoning behind going ten years without sex. I mean, holy Christ, your hand is not enough!

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You screwed up by not using a condom. But the slut thing sounds like a joke. Don’t worry about it.

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For a 27-year-old man, your lack of knowledge of human biology and your own reproductive system is frightening. Please get a book and read up on how your body works.

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… how can you not know your roommate’s name? :dubious:

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Funny, you sure it is me that lacks the knowledge? Seems to me that 10 years without sex shows a decreased libido. This could easily be caused by a low testosterone level, which IIRC, is quite consistant with a low sperm count. Stress causes a decreased sperm count, probably by also lowering test levels in the body. I see no reason to assume extreme periods between sexual situations could not cause the same.

And I took Zoology last semester thank you very much, I am well aware of how the reproductive system works.

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You didn’t say that you might have a low testosterone level or anything else. You said that your sperm count is low due to “lack of use.” You also said that you don’t have to worry about pregnancy since you didn’t have an orgasm. You can find out why you are wrong on both counts by reading a 9th grade biology book . So yes, I am quite sure who it is here who is lacking in knowledge.

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But I have a good personality! :wink:

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Silly Ethilrist, he doesn’t know the name of the condom.