He meant the sluts name. And if a slut wants to be double-teamed, then so be it. It doesn’t make PetW any less of a person.
That STD test… They really stick a Q-Tip up there? Do they knock you out first?
So, let’s see here, PetW doesn’t know her name, but he knows she’s a slut, presumably from this double-teaming behavior that he and his buddy are also participating in. So he calls her this derogatory term, and I ask, “If she’s this lowlife scum, what does that make you?” My issue is with the double standard that seems to be operating in PetW’s brain, not his sexual escapades.
Well missbunny may not be sure, but I am. 
Anyhow - regarding your OP - I really wouldn’t worry too much about it. Even assuming you DID catch an STD (which is a big assumption) the chance of it being an untreatable one is pretty slim.
You should still get tested just in case, but you shouldn’t tie yourself in knots over that issue.
Regarding the issue of not having sex for 10 years - well, I guess you have to figure out why you were doing that. If it was a lack of interest, I wouldn’t worry too much about that either - obviously your interest picked up a bit. If, on the other hand, it was for religious or moral reasons (not wanting to have sex before marriage or something) well - you may feel bad about it, but you certainly shouldn’t beat yourself up about it. Make penance in whatever way is appropriate and then move on.
Really, it’s only a bit of birthday nookie - in the grand scheme of things it’s not that bad a thing. 
I’d go get tested for STDs, just to reassure yourself that you’re fine. Also, the q-tip test is sufficiently painful to discourage similar foolishness in the future.
Honestly, never try to estimate the likelihood of STDs or pregnancy based on stuff your new partners tell you or your own theories (e.g. “Seems to me that 10 years without sex shows a decreased libido. This could easily be caused by a low testosterone level, which IIRC, is quite consistant with a low sperm count…”) People lie all the time, just because they don’t want people like PetW to think they’re sluts, for example.
You really, really shouldn’t downplay pregnancy. It may have been unlikely, but if it happens, you’re are seriously fucked. You are legally liable for 18 years of child support if she decides to have the baby, no matter what she told you beforehand about birth control or fertility or her views on abortion. Not to mention the poor child you might be bringing into a shitty situation. It’s simply not worth the risk.
Yes they do, and no, they don’t…
<hijack>One fine young man entered the emergency room on a quiet night, presented with symptoms of a venerial disease. It was his third visit to our establishment for the same problem. The doctor ordered a swab test. I decided to play a small prank on him. I walked in and grabbed a vag swab, turned and said “because you’ve had this problem more than once, it’s necessary to get a deeper specimen…” He looked like this :eek: but was this color 
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Epimetheus, get tested. It doesn’t hurt (much) and it will at least put your mind at rest.
WHAT. THE. FUCK? :eek: You’re telling me that there are diseases that can’t be detected with a blood test, so the only solution is jamming an instrument into an orifice that in NO WAY was ever intended to be an inlet?
Fuck that. FUCK THAT. I thought it was going to be bad enough having to endure a needle someday if my partner wanted to make sure I was clean, but now I get to have a Q-Tip up my urethra to boot? Fuck it. And don’t say safe sex is the answer, because condoms don’t always work.
I’m still a virgin, and I’m already starting to think that sex isn’t worth it.
:mad: :eek: :mad:
My guess is that he probably considers himself a slut (a male-slut), but is proud of it? In this day and age, there really isn’t a derogatory term for male sluts, it’s all about the bragging rights. And women don’t want to be known as a girl who puts out. But I wonder how many conversations between women have contained, “I know I’m a slut, but I can’t help myself!” In a boasting way. So “slut” isn’t always derogatory. But it was in PetW post. But I see it as justified post, no different then a “bitch who rear-ended me”, kinda way. Obviously she was a slut, if she banged two guys who she probably didn’t know either. I mean really.
Soapbox Monkey. Calm. Breathe with me, sweetie. If you’ll re-read my post you’ll see that it was a PRANK. The guy had been in three times. To clarify: this was a military hospital, and I should have gotten into a great deal of trouble for what I did to that Marine, and I’m rather ashamed for enjoying it so much. Ordinarily a swab test consists of just that. A quick swab inside the very tip of the urethra. It is necessary because the bacteria growing in the mucous membranes need to be viewed under a microscope. It isn’t a lab that’s spun in a tube and read by a machine.
To further clarify: I didn’t really use the vag swab. I used a regular one. I was just trying to scare him.
And, further: If you are a virgin, and are questioning having sex, remember to use protection, and be picky about who you have sex with. K. Lecture over.
I know the BIG one was a prank, but quite frankly, something the size of a pinhead getting stuck up there would make me walk out of the doctor’s office. So please explain “tip of the urethra” to me. Because when I first heard about the swab test, my impression was that it was along the lines of inserting a catheter bag’s tube, meaning “we’re gonna plow this here stick way up that little urethra of your’s.” 
Safe sex is the answer. Condoms, used correctly, work just fine. The very small risk of catching a disease while using condoms correctly is more than compensated for by the fact that sex is nice.
And the q-tip really isn’t that bad. They don’t jam it all the way up there, you know. Just far enough for you to think “you know, I wish he’d stop doing that. I really wish he’d stop…phew, it’s done.”
Sorta limited as far as being picky goes. Everyone’s already making their ways around the block, and I’m still at the starting line. And a smaller number of partners != less chance of STDs unfortunately.
I was under the impression that HPV (a leading cause of cervical cancer) couldn’t be stopped by condoms, and also that herpes have a really easy time getting through.
Just have sex, already. I promise you won’t get herpes or cervical cancer.
Maybe you are well aware, but nothing you wrote about male fertility and sperm counts here in this thread gives any indication of said knowledge.
QtM, MD
Using a condom does reduce the risk of getting both HPV and herpes, though they aren’t foolproof.
If you’re that disturbed by a cotton swab, be glad you’re not a woman going for her yearly gyn exam. (The cranking you open with a speculum, scraping on the cervix for a Pap smear, all the poking around inside, and oh, the lovely part of the exam when the doc has a finger in both of the major orifices down there and then pushes down in the middle of your pelvis. Joy.)
Giraffe, you are too funny. I’m still waiting to see if your sig line is true.
Soapbox Monkey, herpes is spread via mucous membranes. Women have mucous membranes in more than one place, and to my knowledge, men do not wear condoms while receiving blow jobs. Just my experience, but that would rather defeat the point. Again, while it’s difficult, it’s possible to remain STD free by being very VERY picky about who you have sex with.
I believe you can only promise one of those, as SBM is a guy.
Hey, whoa, just to quell some of the panic, and to prevent a serious decline in routine STD testing, I think the swab test seriously depends on what’s being tested for, and why.
For example, if you came into the clinic where I work, and asked for a routine STI check, we’d take a urine sample and send you on your way. We test for chlamydia and gonorrhea in routine checks. We don’t test for things like HSV, HPV, syphillis, etc, unless you have some sort of scary symptom (lumps, bumps, sores, lesions, etc) that you’re concerned about.
Point being, Epimetheus, if you walked into my clinic and described the encounter, the advice I’d give you is to wait three weeks after the encounter then come in for a routine STI check, keep an eye out for symptoms, and if you’re really concerned, wait three months and have an HIV test done. It’s certainly possible to be asymptomatic with many STIs, so it’s always safe to be checked even if you have no fire in the groin. And always use condoms.
Hope that helps.
I offer the following analysis from my point of view, which most likely won’t be endorsed by anybody else:
[ul]Entering into a physical relationship with someone you know you won’t be staying with*: mistake
[li]She’s pretty: understandable[/li]
[li]10 years of celibacy: commendable in one context, pathological in many others[/li]
[li]Failure to use a condom: major mistake[/li]
[li]Paranoia about STDs: probably unfounded, but get yourself checked out anyway[/li]
[li]Persuing it further: another big mistake[/ul][/li]
I’m probably wrong, because I usually am when it comes to this sort of thing. If you are inclined to listen to me though, I’d say just write if off to experience and go on about your business. After you are sure you didn’t contract anything nasty, of course. If you find out you did, by all means tell her.
If it helps at all, I’ve done much worse.
- Entering into a relationship with someone you’re not sure you might stay with is a different story.