You didn’t bother infering that a lack of use is connected to a low sex drive or asking apparently. You automatically entered snarky-holier-than-thou mode and started getting bitchy. Of course my response was driven by my injured ego, but it won’t happen again.
Mods, please close this thread, apparently a few people in here have trouble with offering advice civilly. I am done, and thank those with real advice instead of using me to make themselves feel good. I will take it gladly and follow it.
Well, hell.
I hope it wasn’t me, because I just got here.
And just for the record, on the celibacy thing put me down for “commendable.”
Ok, going to respond here, even thought what I said. I agree that entering into a relationship that I am not sure is going to work may not be a good thing. I am not sure it will be a bad thing. I am not perfect, nor am I right in all things. I am human, I make mistakes, come to mistaken assumptions and probably overthink things. My first conclusion is that this may not work. We are different type of people. That doesn’t automatically mean it wont work, and that it is doomed to failure. I could very well be wrong. Should I not give it a chance? Or should I go about in life 100% sure in my assumptions about things, never once assuming I may be mistaken? That would be a folly I think. I have eaten food I didn’t think I would like, and found I really enjoyed it for some reason. It may be a piss poor analogy, but I think it might show where I am going.
She is a nice girl. I probably have not given a good acount of her, but personally it doesn’t matter. People would respond negatively out of jelousy, or just not like the way I typed something here or in a previous thread. Sort of like what happened above. I see nowhere before missrabidbunny posted in which I was acting like an ass. But for no reason whatsoever she came in spiting fire and being quite rude.
The events that led to my abstience were not all of my doing of course. Some of it has to do with my undesireablity as a person. Some of it is pure circumstance. I don’t think many of them are too pathalogical, though there may be a fear of intimacy involved, surely that isn’t too terrible. A lot of it has to do with my low sex drive. I can go days without even considering sex.
I think she deserves a chance, and who knows, perhaps she will teach me a thing or two- about myself, not sex.
NO, it wasn’t you Exgineer. Only two people responded rudely, one is known, I am sure the other one is obvious. Sad too, I very much respect the other person.
Oh, okay, I get you.
If you think you have a chance to overcome your differences, then I don’t think you screwed up at all. Sometimes good things do happen suddenly.
It might be worth a shot, just be careful. Don’t invest too much emotionally until you really think you have a future with her. Some people might not like what I’m about to say, but you have to practice everything you do in life, including relationships. If she’s tolerable, she could end up being your training girlfriend. And vice-versa. It won’t hurt her to get some practice either. At your age it’s time to start thinking about the rest of your life.
Don’t think I’m being critical of your choice about your sexuality up until now. I’d have had fewer problems if I’d kept it in my pants a little more often.
Doesn’t mean I couldn’t then pass HPV on to another woman.
You know, I’m not so sure about that.
Alright, this really has little to do with the OP, but since some people have made a big deal about it, allow me to explain. I wasn’t bragging, I don’t think it was something to brag about. It was given as an example to make the guy feel better about how he “screwed up.” Kind of like, “you think that was bad? One time I did THIS!” I realize that what I did was stupid. And yes, the girl was a slut, and yes, I am also a slut, and no, it really doesn’t bother me at all what a few people on a message board think about something I did.
If staying celibate is something you value, there’s no reason to think that things have been “ruined” by this one slip up. You can start a new streak from this point onward.
If you do continue to have sex, make sure you use a condom from now on. The odds are that you DO have enough sperm to impregnate someone. Your idea that not having much of a sex drive means you’re infertile is nothing more than wishful thinking. It only takes one sperm to cause a pregnancy.
Well, I hope my post isn’t one of the ones that got you upset - I was just trying to tease a little - You know what they say - we tease because we love. 
Anyhow - if I’d realized you were feeling so sensitive about things I wouldn’t have teased you - I hope you didn’t find the rest of my post offensive because I was being sincere. I don’t think you did anything that 99% of other people haven’t done at some time or another and I think everything will work out OK.
Try not to beat yourself up about it, get some good medical care, and be careful with this girl.
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I’m gonna be really clear, because this kind of thing is a really bad reason not to have an STD test.
I’ve had these tests a number of times. (I get full STD checks with every physical… so far, everything’s clear.) The swab in question is very small. It has a much smaller head than a Q-tip. They do not “stick it up your dick,” they swab out the inside of the very tip of your urethra, as someone said.
Total pain involved? It burns a little bit (and that’s a normal person’s “little bit,” not a nurse’s “little bit.”) That’s all. It hurts less than the blood draw. If you could deal with being vaccinated, you can deal with this.
Matt’s right, it really isn’t that big of a deal, I’d prefer that over the doctor uncomfortably gripping my testicles during the hernia check. Then again, I don’t like anyone touching my balls.
Ok, I knew gyn exams were unpleasent, but this is what I would have to go through? I think I’ll pass.
Yeah, I know that. What I was saying that you cannot get cervical cancer.
What the hell happened to the rest of my post?
To complete my thought, while low testosterone can lead to low sperm count and low libido, the vast majority of low libidos are not caused by low testosterone or low sperm count. Nor does lack of orgasm for months at a time lower sperm count. So the odds favor you being fertile by a wide margin.
So please, please, please assume you are fertile in any future encounters and save yourself potential prolonged heartache!
Alice, your post was inoffensive and I knew you were just teasing. I appreciate the advice.
Qadgop: I appreciate the rest of the post. I was oversimplifying the point, mostly because it wasn’t much of a big deal because I never had an orgasm. Why that was the fact I don’t know. I am not the doctor. 
I only brought up the possiblity to show how unlikely the fact of her becoming pregant was. I would have pulled out anyhow. (I know, not the most efficient, but truthfully I didn’t have a condom, you know, lack of sex for 10 years…)
I would never, ever have sex assuming I am infertile due to what I wrote above. Regardless of what many may think based on some of my posts, I am NOT stupid.
Anyhow, I have seen this girl several times since Wednesday, we have talked some, but nothing else since then. Unfortunately our schedules are both pretty busy, she works 2 40 hour a week jobs, and I go to school and work a 32 hour a week job.
Listen (sorry for the hijack) a Gyno exam is not the most fun thing in the history of the universe, but it’s really not all that bad - it lasts about 5 minutes beginning to end (less probably). I’ve never had a finger up my butt - I believe that part is optional unless you’re pregnant. Furthermore, if I had to choose between that and a trip to the dentist, the gyno exam would win hands down.
Don’t let a grousing post scare you off getting a very important exam that could save your life, OK.
Now returning you to your regularly scheduled penis thread…
I’ll probably get one eventually. I’m only 19 at the moment, so I have a few more years before my doctor starts trying to get me to go. (I seem to remember reading somewhere you should start going in your 20s) Unless of course I make sure I always see Evil Doctor (a particular doctor at the surgery I am registed at.) Then he won’t care and won’t bother to try and persuade me to go.
At this point I can’t assume who’s being serious or not, so I’ll err on the side of caution to stop the spread of mis-information:
“Pulling out” is not good enough. It’s not just “not the most efficient.” All of a man’s semen doesn’t come out with the ejaculation; there is what Dr. Ruth calls a “pre-ejaculatory droplet.” For some guys, it’s more than a droplet, and for some guys, it’s more than just one. And it is enough to cause a pregnancy. It doesn’t have to be the full load; you can pretty safely assume that if you’ve got enough of an erection to be having sex, then everything that comes out of there is going to have some sperm in it. Dude, I’m not even attracted to women and I know that!
Again: always use a condom. Buy yourself some for your birthday.
You really should go. I started going when I was 18 or 19. And yeah, it can be uncomfortable for a little while, but it’s tons better than having stuff go wrong there and letting it get a head start.
Besides, they don’t always do that, erm, two-finger check.