For the most part, it’s little things. A few examples:
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[li]At the grocery, I picked up a Reeses Peanut Butter Cuo for my husband (who was not with me at the time), but was 1 short being able to pay cash for my groceries. I put the RPBC back, since it was .88 – a very nice-looking man behind me in line held out a dollar and said, “oh, don’t put that up, here.” I thanked him and explained that it was going to be for my husband, who really didn’t need it, so it wasn’t a big deal. I have the feeling that if I had weighed my old 350 lbs instead of 117, he wouldn’t have made the same offer. [/li][li]Even though I would get hit on occasionally when I was still very overweight, it wasn’t as blatant as it is now – guys will literally hit on me in front of my husband.[/li][li]Heavy women hate me. I hear little remarks like “little skinny bitch” and “oh, you think you’re so great because you’re skinny” Fuck that, I think I’m so great because I don’t judge people based on their weight like you do, bitch![/li][/ul]
One thing to be aware of with WLS is that you will rfeel the need to explain things to other people – and you don’t have to – such as why you only eat a few bites. “no, I’m not on a diet, I just don’t eat very much” People will stare at you and you know that they are judging you and thinking “whatever, fatty, you know you’re going to pig out as soon as you’re home!” But you can smile and know that that isn’t the case. Eventually, you will be small enough and able to eat more normal portions that you will feel normal when you go out or eat in front of other people.
If you have always been heavy, I will offer a very important bit of advice – find a therapist now, pre-op. Someone that (preferably) specialises in Body Dysmorphic Disorder. As you lose the weight, you will find it harder to recognise yourself. You will still see yourself as heavy, because that is what you have always known. It is a very difficult adjustment for those who have been overweight their whole life (or a large percentage thereof) and having a therapist will make it much easier for you. Plus the whole hormonal thing – if you don’t already know about the hormonal issues, please ask, I will be happy to answer as best I can.
Remember, a lot of people get to the point of needing WLS because they have addictive personalities (not saying this is the case with you, just in general) and so be careful that you don’t trade one addiction (food) for another (shopping, drugs, alcohol, etc). Again, therapists are very helpful here.
Sorry to have somewhat hijacked your thread, but let me offer one more bit of advice – there is another website (www.obesityhelp.com) that is a great source of information for people undergoing WLS. Check out the site and take all that you read there with a grain of salt – trust me, ignorance is not being fought there, but ask your surgeon to clarify anything that you see there, you know?
Good luck! If you have any questions specific about WLS, please feel free to email or PM me, I will answer as best I can. FTR, I had medial Gastric Bypass Surgery on April 18, 2005. I lost a total of 206 lbs in 13 months, then another 8 post-tummy tuck. I have regained about 15, which is what my PCP wanted (still have a normal BMI, and wear between a 0 and a 6 depending on the cut/style). I am very healthy, with great labs every time.