I had this relationship going on for about two months, and we decided because of the distance from each other to remain friends, but, it hurts when I am gonna find out shes with someone else, how do I get over that? Truthfully I’m scared shes trying or found someone else, and it hurts…what do I do? Do I tell her how I feel?
Time heals all wounds.
If you’re meant to be together, it will happen.
Sounds like old cliches, but it’s the truth!
Good luck,
It’s gonna sting. No doubt about it. But, by all means, DO NOT tell her how you feel right now. It would not be fair to her, and, pragmatically speaking, may even scare her off.
She’s gonna see other people. So are you. maybe not right now, but you will. And don’t think that, because you’re “friends,” you share everything. Don’t ask and don’t tell when it comes to the “met someone else” thing. At least for now, it’ll sting too much. As you achieve separation, you will find that the fondness remains, yet the hurt will gradually be replaced by a genuine desire for the other person’s happiness.
If, in time, the romantic feelings between the two of you are still there (and by this I mean on BOTH sides), you will become drawn back to each other. It has happened and is not that unusual. Just let time roll on. You can’t force things to work out. That’s important enough to repeat. You can’t force things to work out.
Be there for her in a limited sort of way (in other words, a way that won’t wound you), and, over time, you will be able to open back up to each other. In that way will your closeness deepen and mature, and then the possibility that things might rekindle increases. But it will do so spontaneously. The more you try to rekindle things, the more you become a B-movie stalker.
I know all this. I am seeing my ex (we dated for three years) for the first time in seven months tomorrow to give stuff back. It’s gonna be damn painful. Why? Because I didn’t do all the things I told you to do.
Oh damn I’m sorry, I really really thank you for the advice 
I think I’m more worried of her finding someone before me…why is that?
I’ve gone through that more than once. Don’t know why. It hurts the ego.
But keep your distance from her, and you can be friends again in a year or so. Instead of worrying about her, do things that are fun for you. Meet other people, especially women, in any context. Focus on what you can do to have fun.
It’s called “Pride” - and it goeth before a fall.
Whatever you do, don’t get pulled into a contest over who finds someone new first; if you do, the situation will be 10,000 times worse than it is now!
Everytime you think of her, recall a very bad smell or odor. I read somewhere that this works very well. Soon, you will have her out of your system for good. Try it, it works. Really! 
Fagjunk Theology: Not just for sodomite propagandists anymore.
Agreed. And if she does find someone else first, just remind yourself that it’s probably a rebound situation and those almost always ultimately fail. That should make you feel better.
Good luck.
Thanks, urgh!!! Why do I have to feel like this? She had feelings for this guy who was like way too young for her, but I reckon those feelings will blossom again once hes reached the age where she can date him properly, could that happen?
When you date someone you know is going to be far away later then that’s the risk you take. You can choose whether to date them or not in the first place. You just have to determine if its worth it. Sounds like this woman is pretty young & you have plenty of opportunity later .
I just have this idiotic feeling that it all has to be done now, the commmitment thing the relationships, cause I feel times slipping through my fingers…the worst thing is I don’t know where this feeling came from…
This is a Lie
I Broke up with my ex a year a half ago, and I’m still not 100% over her cheating ass!
but I dygress, the point is it might take a while, but then again you only knew her two months. I’ve had colds that have lasted longer. So take a few swigs of (root)Beer and let the frothy smouthness wash the pain away
I just read my post, damn I’m an angry bitter man.
I need a drink
Slowly
I had the same thing happen about oh 6 weeks ago maybe, the friendship still isnt right, not even close to being right. Thats probably not what you wanted to hear but, I can say, it is slowly getting better, so thats why I say slowly, because as much as it sucks, time will get you through it.
You can’t get over someone. If you really loved them, you’ll never stop. It may not always have such a point on it, but it’ll be there.
Time is slipping through ALL our fingers, man.
Go meet someone new. Or, better yet – focus on yourself. There’s no rule that says you have to be in a romantic relationship every day of your life. I wish you luck/happiness.
MonkeyMule, go have that drink. Everything’s gonna be allright.
Thanks Blonde
One day I think I’ll break down and post the story of my horribile break up, and then maybe I can try and ger free help.
As far as I know, you don’t get over somebody unless they are cut out of your life.
Two months is really not that long a time to be dating someone, and since the relationship ended because of distance, I’m going to guess you two didn’t see all that much of each other, right?
It’s not the end of the world. I guarantee that you’ll most likely have forgotten all about her inside 6 months. In the meantime, try to focus on yourself- you don’t need to be dating, and the more intensely you look for something, the harder it is to find.
I’d also like to address a few issues brought up in this thread.
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Time is slipping through all our fingers. None of us is very long in this world. Which is better- to make the most of what time we have, or waste it in regret over “what might have been”?
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There is no “meant to be”. There are only people who are compatible over extended periods.
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There is no “one”. Or rather, there are many “ones”. Getting hung up on finding that single soul who is everything you’ve dreamed of since the prom is a sure-fire way to severely limit your chances of finding anyone.
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It is certainly possible to get over someone. It happens all the time, and it starts the mintue you decide to stop thoughts of someone else from taking up so much of your time that you have no time left for you.
Of course, this is all just my opinion. YMMV.