You’re only in town for 6 months and that will fly by-------are you sure you want a genuinely nice guy? If you’re not planning to keep him, why hunt down a keeper? I don’t mean date serial killers, but why not be open to all kinds of guys? Date the nerds, the frat boys, the grocery clerks, the older students, go to parties and bookstores and monster-truck rallies. Date lots of guys once or twice and then when you get home, settle down and hunt you up a nice guy.
Preferable one who Dopes.
easy, my number is [deleted] and I am usually home after dark on weekdays. I live within driving distance of Milwaukee. Call me sometime.
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That’s kind of creepy man…
MyFootsZZZ… My girlfriend said you sound very nice. Good thing for me we probably live pretty far from each other. I would have to join some charity work to compete.
I was exactly in your situation last year, easy e. I found my ‘nice guy’ in lab. I took a self-paced lab class where we were supposed to have one lab partner. I grabbed him because I knew he’d be a good lab partner. Over time, I stopped seeing him as just another student and as a possibility.
Oh, yeah, and they’re right: if you want a nice guy, you’ll probably have to make the first move. I had to be pretty damned overt, but it was okay, because after a while, he got the idea. 
LiquidLobotomy–actually, a lot of the guys in my engineering classes (or the good ones, at least) have already been snatched. And although the company I work for is rather large, I’m in a small building, and most of the people I interact with are middle-aged married men. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, it’s just not what I’m looking for.
I guess my problem is that I like to be asked out. I figure I’ve got plenty of “masculine” behaviors and mannerisms (hence the misconception that I’m a man on the boards), so I want the guys to take charge, at least on the dating side.
And I’m not looking for the perfect, special someone. I just want to go on some dates. Aside from a short-lived dating relationship about a month ago, I’ve been single for about a year and a half. I would make a good girlfriend, really, I would! no, i’m not desperate
It’s ok that you wish to be the one asked out. I myself like that, even if I’m a man. As long as a person, man or woman, doesn’t let a great opportunity pass by! It BUILDS confidence when a good person asks YOU out, BUT it TAKES confidence to ask out a good person. I don’t think ones gender should really matter. To each his or her own.
Thanks Diff T… or thanks to your gf. She has good taste. ;). So you must be a cool pretty guy yourself, huh?!
Reasonably nice guy here, albeit an old man to a college gal. (42)
I’m one of those guys who isn’t very aggressive. Not painfully shy, but far from cocky…and that seems to be a disadvantage for a single male. I have been asked out a few times. I like that.
Yes, I accepted the invites. Try it.
Peace,
TN*hippie
It is not so much that you should be sexually aggressive (although that might work just fine), but more that you should not expect a nice guy to be more sexually aggressive towards you than you are towards him.
Ummmm…so, what would be your reaction if you came out of a bookstore and there was this nice guy making eyes at you? Would that be enough of an initiative on his part to get the two of you together?
You don’t have to smack him over the head with a club and drag him back to your cave, nor do you have to take your clothes off in the parking lot and put his hands on your erogenous zones, but it would probably do you well to pretend that any guy you kind of take a liking to is as interested in you as you are in him, and then take responsibility for 51% of the forward activity necessary to bring the two of you together.
I agree with AHunter3–making eyes at customers is unlikely to result in actual dates, unless one of the two of you is aggressive.
I, for one, have worked in a number of situations where I have had to deal with customers of various types. While I have had dates with customers, it was much more likely that I’d end up dating or hanging out with my coworkers. Working with people is a good way to get to know them. Then you start hanging out outside of work. Maybe it naturally leads to something more. Or maybe you just get some new friends.
In other words–if you are looking to facilitate your social life through a part-time job, choose a job where the other workers seem like fun and sociable people.
Come to think of it, I met my husband–the ultimate nice guy–through work. We worked for different locations of the same store, and met each other at a few parties and things. (the workers were very sociable.) Well, one thing led to another, and here we are!