I am wondering who these women are that allow men to use their bodies as “favors” with no commitment whatsoever? Probably the same women who can’t understand why no man wants to take them as a life partner.
I guess to the OP; having sex with random women with no self respect may help for a while but the real issue is your need to be loved and love in return and you won’t get that between the sheets of a strangers bed. Time is the answer. Self awareness as to why you wanted her so much more after she was gone. Finally finding a life mate that you won’t want to run away from when things get sticky. Best of luck to you.
Pardon me, but are you insinuating here that only women of low self esteem/respect have casual sex? Because if that’s what you ARE saying you are wrong, and are insulting quite a lot of sex positive, fun loving women who don’t have to make it into some huge “love” thing in order to share some healthy, sweaty exercise with a friend.
Stop deluding yourself that sex=love and vice versa, because it isn’t necessarily so and in my opinion trying to bend reality to fit that tiny metric is infinitely more self hating, self deluding and self destructive than enjoying some friends with benefits.
Not everybody in the world is living on tenterhooks, marking time until someone “chooses them as a life partner.” Many men and women prefer the single, uncommitted life and it’s disingenuous in the extreme to put them down because their preferences don’t match yours. It’s a big old world out there, and there’s a right path for each and every one of the individuals who inhabit it. By definition most of those paths will be divergent from your preference, which does not make you right and them wrong, or the other way 'round for all of that.
That being said, to the OP: I think some lighthearted sex to remind you what fun is and get your endorphins up is not a bad idea. It helps a lot to find out that large percentages of what you liked about your relationship is replicable with others and helps you define what it is you’re missing and grieving for. Be honest with others and yourself, be kind always and learn to like yourself and your own company–this makes you much more likable to others.
And sometimes you blow it. That’s life, chalk it up to experience and learn to accept your mistakes as you accept your triumphs–because in the end you learn more from failures than you ever will from successes.