How have you been dumped/blown off?

In My Humble Opinion
21

We were both in the Navy. He was on a carrier in the Med. He sent me a letter saying we weren’t compatible because, among other reasons, I liked to listen to John Denver and he didn’t.

A year or so later, he was out of the Navy and I was still in. He came to visit me. Whatever we’d had was gone. Looking back, I think he was threatened by my ambition - I was pursuing my engineering degree and a commission and he was working as a technician. I think we talked on the phone once or twice after that, but I haven’t heard from him in over 20 years. I often wonder what happened to him.

22

Oh, I’ve got a couple of good ones.

The girl who broke up with me because she was going to college so very far away (about an hour’s drive) and we were going to meet all kinds of new people (she hooked up with her before-me boyfriend 3 days after she broke up with me) and she didn’t want to get tied down (and got married to someone else after she broke up with multiple-ex-boyfriend) with one person when there were so many new people. And she didn’t feel like she could give me the time I wanted to have with her (1, maybe 2, nights a week when she spent all 7 partying with her friends and no, I wasn’t invited).

One other girl broke up with me because we were too young to be tying ourselves down with just one person. She, too, went back to her old boyfriend.

23

I’ve been blown off plenty of times, but here’s the worst one:

We met at a college dance (god, but I’m a dork). Danced together, flirted, and then didn’t see each other again for like a month. I was totally crushifying on her, absurdly so, kicking myself for not asking for her number at the dance.

We saw each other again about a month later, danced, went out for coffee, started getting together for sweet dately things. She was hard-core Mormon and (I thought) hard-core abstinence, so I was all gentlemanly and stuff; our dates were things like making pizza, going for walks, going to plays, that sort of thing.

She told me about this goober in a class of hers who kept annoyingly, simperingly hitting on her, and how much it annoyed her. We laughed about him.

One time, when we were getting together to go see a band or something, she asked if I wanted to go to a rave instead. Huh? I said. Sure.

So we got together with the other folks, one of whom looked awful gooberlike. She and I spent the first part of the evening, arm-in-arm; but by three in the morning, she was sprawled out in his lap.

Me, not getting the point, invited her over once more, to watch a movie. She brought the goober along and lay in his lap during the whole movie.

Ick, ick, ick. Had she just said, “The goober’s won my heart,” that woulda been okay. But this was extra-special slimy.

Man, I hated my college years.

Daniel

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DanielWithrow, that reminds me of a girl I knew! I dated this girl for about 8 months, when out of the blue she just starts becoming really distant. Eventually, she called me and said she wasn’t emotionally capable of being in a relationship at the time. Being young and naive, I believed it. In fact, I thought it was my fault. See, our relationship was extremely platonic, and she had made it very clear she had a problem being touched (this was one-way; she had no problem touching/hugging/kissing other people, but she was totally off-limits :rolleyes: ) I had thought maybe because I held her hand that one time, or kissed her goodbye after a date, that I insulted her to the point of breaking up with me.

Thank god I was wrong. I later found out from 4 other guys she dated that she’d meet some guy when she was still dating another guy, and when she got really interested in the new guy she’d then dump the old guy. She spent 6 years doing this. I was her first boyfriend and respected her ‘no-touch’ policy, but her next boyfriend trampled all over it and sexually abused her, though she didn’t break up with him over it. :mad:

25

It will be a pleasure to relive this painful past.

I was dating this really attractive woman for a short period. For some reason I was falling for her despite numerous red flags. We agreed to stop seeing each other for two weeks while she spent vacation time with her daughter. When we finally hooked up she massaged my ego by telling me that she had re-kindled with an old flame during her two week quality time with her daughter. The life was sucked out of me for months!

She ended up marrying him within three months, had a kid, and divorced within 18 months (apparently he was not very gentle with her). I , on the other hand, am expecting my first child with a woman who I love deeply.

Jamlad

26

Back in high school, there was a girl who was a minor acquaintance until she broke up with her boyfriend. Suddenly we became really good friends, hanging out a lot, talking about all matters serious and silly, and really enjoying each other’s company. I really developed a huge crush, and at a high school dance, I decided it was time to move the relationship up to official boyfriend/girlfriend status as well as get that first kiss. Her response absolutely crushed me:

You’re such a sweet and nice guy, so much nicer than any guy I know. But you know I just broke up with my last boyfriend, and the next time I go out with someone, I want to prove to my ex that I can do better than him. :frowning:

27

Seeing her go down on a mutual friend while she thought I was asleep was pretty much it. Yeah. Good times.

28

Yeeouch!

Man, these are some painful stories. Makes me feel better.

Of course, being happily married now sure doesn’t hurt, either. It’s sometimes fun to think of the time-bombs I dodged, now tick-tick-ticking away in other states.

Daniel

29

I was “let go” (downsized?) this last time because apparently I am not frightened by commitment enough. She decided to cut it off (hah) because she thought that if she got into a relationship with me, it would be bound to become long term, and she doesn’t “do” long-term relationships.

So it goes.

30

Ah, but twas just a week ago this day that I had the misfortune of getting dumped, as it were. Of course, it was a quasi-dump, as she didn’t come right out and say she wanted to get rid of me. Instead, she ignored me for a week, not returning my calls, never being at her place, and all in all not being nice to me. I confronted her Friday, and after finding a used condom in her trash proving that she cheated on me (after her saying that she doesn’t really love me anymore and can’t have fun when dating me) it was over. She dumped me without actually dumping me. Ouch.

31

Oh yah, I forgot about the time my so-called boyfriend took me shopping for an “I can’t live without you and I want you back” gift for his so-called “ex” girlfriend.

Teenagers are assholes.

32

Oh there are some “ouchies” here all right. I have a doozy too:

I lost my virginity to this guy I met at work who was constantly telling me I was wonderful and beautiful and he was madly in love with me and wanted to marry me and couldn’t wait for me to meet his mother, etc etc. The day after I slept with him he not only didn’t call me, he didn’t show up for work; nor did he show up the next day, or the next. Nobody knew what the hell had happened to him. At first I was freaked out thinking he’d been in an accident, then it slowly dawned on me what happened. I soon made a habit of staying locked up in my room eating a pint of Ben & Jerry’s for lunch and a box of Whitman’s chocolates for dinner. About a month and a half later I’m finally pulling my crap together and getting ready to go out to a club with some friends when the phone rings: guess who?! He’s calling me (in San Francisco) from freakin’ SEATTLE!! According to him: “I love you so much and my love is so strong that it scared me and I had to run away. I’m ready to come back if you want me to.” Me: “You know what? I don’t think it matters what I want because you’re going to do whatever the hell you want anyway.” He: “I’m sorry you feel that way - I love you.” Me: click That was hard, and it really stung. But like most of what happens in life it makes you sadder but wiser.

33

Okay, this is evil, but I can’t help ranking these as I read through them. These two and the text message dump (someone just earned themselves a place in asshole heaven) are just a few of my…um…favorites? :slight_smile:

34

Man, after reading what I few of you have gone through I don’t feel quite so bad…

In college, I had been seriously involved with this woman for some time. We went out to dinner one night (planning to go dancing later) when see sees another guy she knows waiting for a table and invites him over to ours. Spends most of the dinner talking to him. Then, when dinner is over, tells me that since I have finals coming up, she “doesn’t want to keep me from studying” so she’ll go off with other guy and see me later. (This is a Friday night and finals are a few weeks away.) I find out later she spent the weekend at his place.

Found out years later that he pretty much screwed her over mentally and emotionally and she wound up dropping out of school. Sad to say, I really didn’t feel sorry for her.

35

I wonder if there would be a market for “Sorry to hear about your karma” cards?

Daniel

36

“There are two kinds of people in this world: those who like Neil Diamond and those who don’t. My ex-wife loves him.”

Oh, and a big thank you to everyone who’s posted. I try to make my questions as fun, fun, fun as possible, but I sometimes, you know, fail.

37

I have nothing compared to most of what is in this thread. I have been dumped by not returning phone calls, and I was once dumped for Jesus.

38

Allow me to extend to you a staunchly heterosexual hand-on-shoulder, ArrrMatey. That one gave me violent thoughts.

39

The worst I’ve ever heard of happened to my college roomate. She’d dated this creepy jerk, who’d been her first real boyfriend, for nearly four years. He was out of town visiting his parents for a couple of days before Valentine’s and my roomie decided to surprise him by decorating his place. Red balloons, flowers, she even put up streamers and scattered rose petals. His response to her expression of affection was to call her and break up over the phone! Four years, Valentine’s day, and he dumps her over the freakin’ phone. The poor girl just crumpled, I held her on my lap for a couple of hours while she cried like the world had ended. 'Course, now she’s happily married, living a great life and he’s messed up every personal and professional relationship he’s ever had. Heh!

40

Wowza,

I don’t feel so bad now. I would pay money to be there when some of these losers’ karma comes back to bite them in the ass…

When I left for college (a whopping 45 minutes away from my hometown - I still lived in the dorms though) I noticed that my boyfriend of 7 months (when you’re that age, it’s serrrrrious) was getting harder and harder to reach.

One night, I got really worried and paged him a bunch of times. When my phone rang I rushed to answer it and some girl screamed into the phone “he doesn’t want to see you anymore bitch! Quit calling!”

I was dumbfounded.

He ended up in prison. Gotta love the karma…