I’m not a lesbian (the Y chromosome makes it virtually impossible), so I have to ask, as I don’t see how this is even possible. A straight woman can “just lie there” and I’ve heard more than one woman say she could never be a lesbian because she likes just lying there (which kinda pisses me off, but never mind), but how can a lesbian get away with this? She has to do something… right?
You didn’t really think you could say something like that and not get queried about it, right? Did you just start swinging or something?
I think one item that needs to be factored into the statistics is the “timelines”. It isn’t the same to have had sex with 1000 people at 50 than at 15, you know.
Best: Very hard to decide. I’ve had some memorable mind-blowing sessions with a few different people. A consistently good partner was my last ex-girlfriend. Haitian ancestry, lost some of her inhibitions with me (and she didn’t have very many left), and was very eager to experiment with most things that her previous boyfriends weren’t kinky enough to suggest to her. We both got tested for everything and she went on the pill after a few months, so that was also my first time for regular unprotected sex without big worries. Spontaneity rules! Unfortunately, because I’ve had a taste of what it’s like without them, condoms are just barely tolerable now.
Worst: She got much more drunk off a couple glasses of wine than either of us thought she would, so I took her back to my place to sleep it off. She woke me up a couple of hours later by kissing and fondling me. Unfortunately, she didn’t know what she wanted, despite allegedly having lost her virginity at 14. She acted like a total virgin. One minute she told me she wanted me in her, and after a brief delay to apply a condom I complied. A couple of minutes later she freaked out and told me, “No, stop. I just want you to hold me.” We went back and forth a couple of times before I basically said, “Hey, you don’t know what you want, so I’m not starting anything anymore. You take control, you’re in charge. We’ll do what you want to do.”
She interpreted that as my not being interested, got dressed, and I took her home. For the next week I kept halfway thinking that the cops would show up to arrest me on rape charges or something, considering how ambivalent she was about the whole thing. I hope it was her still being kind of plowed that caused the problem because otherwise almost every other time for her must have been borderline forced intercourse. Worst case of blueballs I’ve ever had too. Even after coming home and jerking off, it hurt to walk the next day.
Strictly intercourse: 7; including other sexual stuff: another 7 or 8
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Best: The first guy that I truly cared a lot about. Not my first time having sex, but the first time I felt an emotional connection with someone I was having sex with.
Worst: There was this one guy I met on vacation, and I was drunk, and it seemed like a good idea at the time. Then in the middle of things I sobered up and wanted to stop. I told him, but he convinced me not to. I ended up laying there just thinking how I had made a bad decision, and then I started silently sobbing. Not good on any level.
Well that’s not fair at all. For the sake of statistics, I’ll change my answer of “thousands” to 3000. And I’m wondering whether I’ve ever had sex with anyone else in this thread.
After seeing some of the numbers in this thread, I feel less sex scared. The skewed numbers is what normally happens when you conduct sex surveys where it is possible for people to be identified. If the people feel that their number will never be connected to their name, then sex partners reported by females goes up and more males admit to lower numbers.
If you were active in columbus during the early-mid 90’s it’s possible…hmm I was early 20’s then and you would have been late 40’s. Yep, it’s always possible.
I tried calling her the next day. No answer. All mobile phones have a number display, so I figured she didn’t want to talk. I finally got ahold of her a few days later. She acted like we’d never done anything. She was planning on going to the US for a couple of months for a homestay program. She never got in contact with me before she left or when she was supposed to get back. The whole thing was just weird. I chalked it up on my crazy female experiences board I keep in my head and went on with life.
Not without regrets though. I try pretty hard most of the time to leave everyone a little bit better off for having known me; part of my moral code. I’ve had very few bad breakups. Stuff like that makes me feel bad for a while and I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what went wrong and how I could do better next time. That time with that girl was just something that was out of my control. The only thing I really could have done was to not get involved. Then again, how was I supposed to know that it would turn out that way when she was giving out all kinds of interest signals?
After I got over the frustration, I realized that I felt sorry for her having some obvious hangups about sex. It’s actually kind of good that she broke off contact with me because I used to have a bad habit of “fixing” women like her. It almost always ended up being emotionally draining for me.
I’m 29 and I’d only been with my husband. I broke up with my boyfriend (who I hadn’t slept with yet…long boring divorce story) and decided that I needed to see what I was missing. Well, I discovered that my husband did not have the huge member he claimed to, and he did not know how to use it! I didn’t know sex could be so fabulous. So I decided to have as much sex as possible. And here I am, 30 days later, lots more experience. Its not helping things that I think I’m hitting my peak!
You are 100% correct. This goes back to my original post which started this thread. Whenever I talk to a female friend or had a conversation with an ex-girlfriend before, there was ALWAYS a light number of sexual partners. Whenever I talked to a guy (with a group of guys around), there was always this high number, which each guy consecutively getting higher in his partner list.