- One. I was a virgin when I started dating the woman to whom I am now dating. Never really even kissed a girl my age before that.
- 33
- Male
- Straight
The question of best and worst is fairly moot with only one partner in my case.
My husband reads the Dope sometimes (not as much as he used to before the new job, but sometimes). My boyfriend doesn’t, though. (And for neither of them would the information shared here be new, anyway.)
I think a lot depends on basic mindset and to a certain amount cultural expectations. I’ve never been interested in anything that wasn’t a long-term, serious relationship; that both cuts down on how likely I am to have a sexual encounter in general and makes it more likely that a relationship I form will include sex, for example.
I also tend to wind up with people who feel the same way for basic compatibilitiy reasons, which means that I with my six partners lifetime have always been the more sexual-variety experienced partner in all the sexual relationships I’ve had except the first one (which was a matter of mutual inexperience and figuring it all out together). I’ve never had a relationship that included coitus last less than a year, though some didn’t really last more than that.
Um… what? A husband and a boyfriend- do either of them know about the other?
As per usual, I’m late to the party.
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How many sexual partners have you had in your life? 8 for coitus, an additional 15 (or thereabouts) for sundry other sexual encounters.
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How old are you? 27
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Are you male or female? Female
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Are you gay or straight? Bisexual
Worst sexual experience: With my first boyfriend, though not our first time having sex. He told me to shut up and hold still. So I did.
Best sexual experience: With my current boyfriend. Manacles, rope, candle wax and a blissfully sharp knife.
It sounds like your first boyfriend should have held on to a you a few years before he started to get freaky. Sharp knife? I have used a gun, but knife, holy shit.
When come back, post videos.
Just for the benefits of posterity and science…
of partners: 8
Age: 45
Gender: male
Orientation: straight
If the numbers people have collated look strange, that probably just indicates that the type of people posters are primarily sexually attracted to tend not to post here. The amazing thing, therefore, is how many relationships have sprung up here, leading to involvement (possibly within this very thread…) & marriage.
Of course they do.
It is highly likely that the abuse I endured at the hands of my first boyfriend directly contributed to the…shall we say, specialized…tastes I have today, but it’s been a long and harrowing road to get here. For a long, long time sex was not something I enjoyed, but a gift that I bestowed upon men who “earned” it. The instruction of “shut up and hold still” stuck with me much longer than the boy who gave it, and I suspect that some of my early boyfriends may well have me on their “worst” list themselves.
Blessedly, I am finally in a place where I love sex, and I know how to ask for what I want and what I need. Sometimes that’s pain, and sometimes not, but at least now I have a say in the matter.
I do find it interesting that a gun seems less scary to you than a knife. Personally, I would never let a sexual partner bring a gun into the act, but that’s just me.
Wow, sorry, I take back my comment.
As far as the gun thing, it was when my wife and I first started having sex. We thought maybe it would just be sex, so we didn’t care. It was one of her fantasies and she thought the gun was loaded. It wasn’t, and I will never tell her differently.
No, don’t…it is an interesting parallel, and one that occurred to me as I wrote my post. It just goes to show that love, trust, and maturity have a HUGE impact on one’s sexual enjoyment.
I hope my reply didn’t come across as snotty or angry - that really wasn’t my intention. 
I feel obliged to lower the straight male average, considering that 76 per seems a bit high.
26, male, straight. One partner (my wife).
I was 22 when we got married. I can honestly say that I had no idea other people had so much sex with so many different people.
Partners: 18 for coitus, add 7 for the other stuff (two of which are female)
Age: 23
Gender: Female
Gay/Straight: Straight?
Worst: Definitely my first time. We were drunk, he wasn’t nice about it and the whole situation was stupid. 
Didn’t enjoy sex at all for a couple years.
Best: Tony; the only guy to ever make me come during coitus, once. That was 4 years ago. That doesn’t mean I don’t have great sex, though my current boyfriend seems to think he’s doing something wrong (or not good enough). I think it has to do with how comfortable I am and/or how safe I feel with a person. Or I’m one of those few women who just don’t come easily at all. Oh well.
Not at all. I just wanted to make sure I didn’t come across as being insensitive.
Some wish they hadn’t. .
- Actual sex: 1 (my current boyfriend). Other things : 2
- 21
- Female
- Bi (although I’ve never been with a girl for more than cuddling)
Worst: My ex boyfriend. We were inexperienced, he asked to be friends with benefits, I said sure, why the hell not. Then he got attached and told me he loved me. The first time we made out I had a panic attack, which wasn’t his fault, repressed memories of abuse coming to the forfront, but it soured things. He wasn’t horrible, just the wrong time and place
Best: My current boyfriend. We’ve been together for more than a year. He showed marked patience and care from the beginning, when I was skiddish and scared. He helped me learn to relax and enjoy sex, a lot. We love each other and that makes it all the better.
10 for coitus
25
Female
Straight
Hopefully that was a typo above. My 1000 go in the gay category.
Late jumping in, but here goes:
Partners: Can’t really remember them all and I didn’t keep careful track. Best guess is somewhere between 125 and 150?
Age: 44
Gender: Male
Gay/Straight: Straight
Being a gaijin foreigner (especially someone who’s white) in Tokyo adds +3 to the charisma (and +2 to the height ). There’s a number of Japanese girls who like meeting gaijins. I was a barfly for a while, and eventually got good at it. My friends enjoyed hearing about the adventures, such as the girl who couldn’t wait and gave me a blowjob in the taxi on the way to the hotel. Ah, those were the days, but I’ve “retired” since meeting my wife.
Best: My wife! I wouldn’t trade her for the other 124 (or 149). It’s not necessarily her technique ('cause I’ve met women who would blow your mind through your dick) but there’s nothing like great sex with some you are completely in love with.
Worst: The woman who dragged me though three bars, one restaurant and a dance club, with me buying the whole way. I had made it a rule to never buy drinks for women but I was stupid that night. She keep leading me on, and I stupidly kept following. She would say things like, let’s go back to my place, but I want to go to XX first. Finally we wind up really drunk at her place at 4:30 am and she falls asleep right during the middle of the act. Not bothering to finish, I leave, but decide to have her do the right thing and pay for the wine. Since she left her money out on the table it was more of a pissed off drunk action than a deliberate theft, but still. :eek:
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How many sexual partners have you had in your life? 30 or 31
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How old are you? 29
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Are you male or female? female
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Are you gay or straight? straight (so far!)
As for best and worse - well, seeing as 29 of these happened over the last month, they’ve all just kind of run together. Some really good ones, some really bad ones!