I regularly drive sitting in front and have my friend max and his fiance sandy snuggling in the back seat, I would rather let them have some of their very short time together [they work different shifts] and I prefer to drive because I have a not-quite-a-phobia about being separated from my car and not being able to transport myself when I want to. MrAru has the car almost every day because he has the job, and I dont…so I rarely get to see max and sandy, and I understand being on separate schedules from a lover.
I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with holding hands, saying I love you or even kissing in public as long as the kissing isnt great slobbery french kisses with tonsil hocky going on, really smarmy ‘i love you, no i love you more, no i love YOU more…’ teenybopper stuff. I would rather see 2 people walking along holding hands than the mallrats who go around with their hands in their SO’s back pockets copping a feel as they walk. All things in moderation.
And FWIW, I will after being married for 15 years still hold hands with and tell mrAru I love him in public. I will even gasp kiss him.
Yes, but you’re not single, are you? If you read the whole thread, I amended my statement to say I won’t be involved in any PDA’s, but anyone else can. And to be considerate of your single friends’ feelings.
If your friends kiss in front of you, you don’t think and be sad about how you’re going back to the same old empty apartment with no one there. Just be considerate, is all I’m asking.
I’m single and it wouldn’t even occur to me to think this way. I wouldn’t expect by friends to take my single status into account when interacting with their SO in my presence and it baffles me that anyone would. Extreme PDA is never appropriate IMHO but holding hands, or a quick kiss hello/goodbye are all OK. Indeed I would think it odd if a serious couple parted without some expression of affection. Even if it’s just “See you later, sweetie.”
Just be considerate, is what I said. Anyway, way back in one of my first posts, I did point out that the parting kiss was OK - just not regular smoochy-smoochy in front of them.
And it’s great that you’re comfortable with it, but lots and lots of people aren’t.
Oh, I agree that couples should be considerate of those around them but I don’t think the rules of what’s appropriate change depending on whether the witnesses are in a relationship or not. When I hang out with friends who are dating, I do so assuming that they may sometimes act like a romantic couple. It seems kind of selfish to me to expect a friend to censor normal interaction with their SO just because I don’t have one.
Like someone else said, don’t count your money in front of the poor.
Anyway I’m sorry but this conversation is getting really old and doesn’t seem to have a point anymore. You’re convinced your way is OK, I think it’s not. Debate doesn’t get us anywhere.
I think you’ve taken the best course you can StarsA.
I think Joe is going to be in a big suprise because it’s awful hard for a lying jerk to compete for the attention of a guy with someone who can have sex with that man.
I’m even more convinced that Joe does not have a place in your wedding party. What if he gets angry at something then? What if he wants to give you two another ‘test’?
What if? Are you kidding me? He’s as much as promised her there *will * be more battles and he’s not giving up his friend easily.
Time to be proactive. Make some ground rules for any interactions you must have with him and avoid those that are not musts. Have a serious talk with ST regarding Joe and use the outcome to help judge your standing and what the future might hold with this man, Joe or no Joe.
If you don’t have a plan of action in dealing with this asshole, then he will blind-side you again and leave you spinning. Do NOT give him the satisfaction.
