I was just wondering the best way to maximise a sexual encounter? thanx.
Define ‘maximize’. Length of encounter? Repeat episodes? Pleasure peak? Wesson Oil consumption (Oh…FLORence…)
First, you have to show up to the right place. In this case, that’d be the IMHO forum.
So, strike one for you.
Second, to ‘maximize’ anything, you need to be specific, so when you do find yourself in the right forum, try putting forth a little effort (which is a not so subtle hint that you need to elaborate the question and also apply the ‘more effort’ comment to your sexual encounters).
Strike two for you.
Pleasure, how to maximise the pleasure for both you and the other person.
OK, then.
Take time. Don’t rush.
Let it build…then ease back…repeat until climax.
IMHO, anyway.
Twins.
use a real human, blow up dolls arent any good
A counter-clockwise swirl, and good knuckle technique.
Stoner,
Are we to assume you are a girl looking to maximize sex with a man…or a girl looking to maximize sex with a girl…or a man with a man…or maybe you’re a man looking to maximize sex with a girl. …?
Guess you didn’t like the ‘more effort’ suggestion. I think you are underestimating the best piece of advice so far…
im a man maximising sex with a girl, thanx to all those who have posted replies
I would start by hiring the Swedish Bikini Team and go from there.
Since you’re looking for advice, I’ll move this thread to IMHO.
bibliophage
moderator GQ
From my own experiences Ive learned that sexual stimulation is not really a physical thing, stimulation all start in the mind. If you can stimulate your partners mind first before actually engaging in sex, that would help a lot. Simply create a sexual fantasy in your mind, have your partner do the same, then the both of you do what you can to live them out.
I don’t know if you are either male or female, but…
If you are a male, don’t just lay her down, ram it in and keep pushing till YOU are satisfied, then roll over and go to sleep with your back to her. That’s one way to kill her interest in any future engagements with you real quick. I’ve learned (at least with my girlfriend) to try and keep her surprised and not go through the same old routine with her over and over again. If she can predict your every move before you make it, believe me buddy she’s gonna get bored with you real fast. Myself, I really enjoy catching her off guard when I know she’s not expecting it and its the farthest thing from her mind (but thats only if I know she’s in a good mood).
From reading a few psychology books I learned that no matter how much a person tries to hide it, if they are forcing themselves to do something against their will, no matter how much they try to cover it up or "go along" with it, their body is gonna tell on them in some kind of way. Ex. when my girlfriend doesn't want to be bothered she'll do the following things:
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She’ll sit with her legs either crossed or with her knees close together, or if she’s standing she’ll stand with her heels close together
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She’ll stand with her hands folded across her breast as if to say " Leave them alone"
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If I make a pass at her, she either shrug her shoulders or take a deep breath and “sigh”
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She’ll start speaking in very low sad tone of voice
I’ve learned to take all of these as signs to back off and leave to herself for a while
These are just a few examples. These are also things she does sub-consiously. I believe that if she was aware that she does these things, she might try and start hiding them or "catching herself " as some would put it.
Now whenever I go after her and she does the opposite of the things I’ve listed above, then I’ll assume that its safe to continue.
I’ve also learned that showing passion is a VERY big turn on for her. Letting her see “and hear” how much she’s turned me on and the effects of her reactions to my advances, really seems to excite her a lot. By studying her often enough I’ve had a chance to learn “at least the basics” of her likes and dislikes and how and when to make advances or not
All women obviously are not the same, but I’ve learned ’ at least with mines" that to satisfy both parties…it all starts with the imagination and learning your partners ways…it all starts with the mind or mental stimulations… (fantasies) 
The only advice that will apply across the board is: know your partner. Everyone is different, everyone likes different things. Just when I think I have figured out the Ultimate Female Pleasuring Technique ™, I meet a woman who does not like her neck kissed that way, or has very sensitive nipples that are uncomfortable to be aroused too much.
So, be relaxed, be open, and don’t be afraid to say, “does this feel good,” and “what would you like?”
Try developing an intimate relationship with someone before having sex. This goes a long way toward maximizing the experience every time.
Twins are good too.
My advice is helpful on many levels.
SLOW DOWN.
Slow down during sex, slow down during posting, slow down during writing, slow down during looking for the shift key, slow down during finding punctuation. You seem to be in a massive rush, and that’s just not going to cut in the sack.
Set the derivative equal to zero.
Date a tall girl.
I’m reading into the word “encounter” here that this is a one off thing, and whether there a repeat is on the cards is not established yet by either participant.
I think if this is the case it’s all in the mind.
To acquit yourself gentlemanly don’t be either:
a. Needy. I really hate it when guys start to proclaim they love me, when the whole thing was a drunken one night stand. Ask for the girl’s number if you want, but don’t assume things.
or
b. An obvious user. On the flipside, you don’t want to come across as though you view women as sex-objects either. In the morning, even if it all seemed a dreadful mistake, make her a coffee or some light breakfast and thank her for the night.
Follow these rules and you both get out of it with your dignities intact whether or not the encounter results in something more.