:dubious: Wait a minute, what’s all this nonsense about women having orgasms?
When did that start?!
I don’t recall granting you permission!
Well, technically the penis is the clitoris. All it takes is one hormone to change the clitoris and ovaries to a penis and testicles.
Along these same lines, there are many women who are genetically men. If the receptor for this hormone is damaged or misshapen in any way, the hormone won’t do its damage, and make the person physically male.
How does a real man bring his woman to orgasm?Real men don’t care.
If she doesn’t want you to know she is faking, you won’t know she is faking. I think women who fake orgasms are setting themselves up for bad sex for the duration of the relationship though, so I myself do not fake them. However, my opinion might not be the most accurate since I have some kind of magical orgasmic powers. 
Because I was playing around? Being silly? Are you always this touchy? I’ll make a note - do not joke with Hoopy Frood.
The two main reasons I have done so:
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To convince my partner that I really did already have (at least) one orgasm. My real orgasms are very silent–in fact, I normally go completely limp, to the point of seeming to be unconscious (but there are a LOT of contractions involved!). The better the orgasm, the more I go limp. However, I have had partners in the (long ago, premarital!) past who didn’t really believe I had an orgasm unless I made all the silly noises that most women make.
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Because I have realized that I will not reach orgasm (often this has nothing to do with my partner), and I just want to get it over with. For some reason, all the silly noises and writhing are enough to get my partner to reach climax, even if I feel nothing at all, and have no other response.
In both cases, though, it is primarily for the benefit of my partner. If I were really selfish, I could simply say something like, “Ok, I’m done now. Can you finish this off in the shower by yourself?”
Given the choice between having your female partner “fake it,” and having your female partner simply ask you to dismount when she’s finished, how many of you guys would really prefer that she not fake it?
Then look at the number of times that your partner has NOT reached climax before you do, and whom you have left unsatisfied because you couldn’t perform any more.
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I’m afraid I can’t give you an internet cite. The search would be too unpleasant, given the overwhelming amount of less than scientific sites that address the subject.
Feel free to joke around with me! As long as you aint faking, of course. 
Well, scholar.google.com or PubMed both seem to be steering clear from the rather pruriently oriented sites.
Look, I’m not saying that it’s something that urologists or gynecologists or love-doctors the world over agree upon, but grant me that there’s significant debate upon the issue. Again, if you want to start a GD thread be sure to e-mail my profile.
I’m relatively certain that some other posters would be available to come down on my side as well from personal experience. Perhaps we should try to find a woman that actually does ejaculate.
Ooo, a subject I’m very familiar with!
The short of it is: I don’t know if you CAN tell.
Contractions can be faked, obviously, because some women deliberately tighten to increase the pleasure for both parties mid-sex. Female ejaculation isn’t universal by any means, but women who DO squirt can sometimes do it at will. Incidentally, female ejaculation has some similarities with urine, but it’s not regular urine. The consistency and taste are different and I read about lab tests a while back that showed some very similar elements, but not an identical liquid. Women have orgasmed with their bladders completely empty. One very common belief is that it originates from the Skene’s gland (female equivalent of the prostate).
It’s definitely possible that some women urinate a bit if they get excited during sex, but, as the girlfriend of a woman who DOES squirt, I can tell you that there’s more to female ejaculation, because it doesn’t taste at all the same or depend on having liquid in your bladder.
Best way to tell? Ask what you can do to make her come. It’s not foolproof, but most women enjoy orgasm and won’t turn down an opportunity to experience one. Obviously this relies on there being a sense of trust and making it clear that you’re not mad at her if she faked it in the past and just want to make it better.
Someone asked why anybody cares if the other person came or not, and one of the replies was basically because it increases the likelihood of getting reciprocation. I’d argue that making a woman come is a very rewarding experience in that it gives you a sense of accomplishment that, frankly, most men haven’t achieved. I also think it’s pretty damn hot to watch/feel/hear a woman come. 
What’s the Woody Allen movie where he asks why his girl never tells him when she has an orgasm, and she says “Because you’re never here”?
Then there’s the one about the college biology professor that was talking about sexuality, and spotted a co-ed in the front row looking very bored so he wanted to get her attention back on to the subject. He stops his lecture and says “Miss Johnson, for instance do you know what your asshole is doing when you have an orgasm?”
She replies, “yeah, he’s usually playing golf”.
Thanks, I’ll be here all week, tip your waitress, I get a cut…
Because most guys don’t like to have sex with women who don’t have orgasms. Or at least they like to know that the woman is enjoying herself.
Did you mean to type “orgasms”. I would have thought you meant “a pulse”.
Perhaps I should have said discerning men usually prefer their partners to enjoy themselves.
How about Cecil Himslef?
Wow, what a way to jump into forums.
“I’m relatively certain that some other posters would be available to come down on my side as well from personal experience. Perhaps we should try to find a woman that actually does ejaculate.”
threemae
Ok, well I DO ejaculate. But not always. And only in certain positions, and NOT during an orgasm. It confused me as well til I read about the female prostate gland.
And I can fake it with the best of them…I flush before the action gets going and keep being flushed so it doesn’t help. As for contractions… as an avid practicer of Kegal exercises I knew about them and do them. The only thing I have come across in myself that couldn’t be faked is nipples getting hard. Hopefully this has already happened, or why would you want to be there anyway? For that matter, if I needed to fake more than once for a guy (to soothe his ego) why would I want to be there for the sex? As a multiple orgasm person I would get durn tired after a while.
Annette
My girlfriend ejaculates during orgasm, almost invariably, as my frequently-changed sheets can testify. In lieu of putting her in front of a webcam and turning her into a porn star, I’d recommend buying some educational videos. There are websites on this very matter that offer video evidence.
How do you spot a fake orgasm?
It’s when their lips move.
If you fall asleep before she does.