I am in love with a Christian.

You’re getting a lot of good advice in this thread, and a lot of people telling you encouraging stories, but I dated a religious man for three years (I’m an agnostic/pantheistic neo-pagan myself), and it was a waste of three years for both of us. He did try to convert me, there was no doubt in my mind that he felt I was on the wrong path, he would subtly and repeatedly try to get me to correct my ways and come to church and stop swearing and stuff like that (the swearing one has mostly stuck). I got tired of not being good enough for him.

He never hid his religion from me, I didn’t hide mine (or lack thereof) from him. Our only mistake was in not seeing what was obvious right from the start - we were incompatible, and no amount of time would have made that better. Yeah, you can be happy with a Christian girl, but I would strongly recommend that you sit down together and have a very long, very involved talk about both of your religious beliefs and how they translate into living in the real world, and do yourselves the favour of believing what you hear.

To answer your earlier question, mikemike, I was raised with no particular religion, and I currently have no particular religion (except for the agnostic/pantheistic neo-paganism), and neither does my lapsed-Catholic husband. Funnily enough, What Exit?, the two religions I might possibly be compatible with are Unitarianism and Buddhism. :slight_smile:

I should also mention that I wasn’t keen on all his religious ideas and actions, but I was a hell of a lot more willing to live and let live than he was. The religious Dopers here (or the religious spouses) might not be proselytizers, but the fact remains that there are a lot of religions who have as one of their basic tenets that the faithful have a sacred duty to convert everyone that they can. If your girl belongs to one of these religions, she will probably try to convert you; she has to.