I went to see my brother and his wife this weekend. They’re having a baby in November. It suddenly hit me; what if my brother had someone like me? What if he was having an affair? I don’t know if I can ever describe how I felt when I realized what I had been doing, and although I was supposed to have stayed the night, I went back home.
I called him, he came over and I told him we were wrong. I told him all sorts of mean and evil things, and I accused myself of equally evil things. I cried, he cried. I told him that if he ever divorced her, he was welcome to contact me. But not before that, not even as friends. I don’t want to be his friend and it would feel like a betrayal to act as if I do. It almost killed me to see him leave. But I didn’t run after him.
I’m sorry for my actions and thoughtlessness. I’m sorry for my selfishness and I’m sorry I refused to take your advice to heart. But I’m not sorry for how I feel about him. I wish he were mine. But he’s not and I have to live with that.
So excuse me while I stock up on double chocolate fudge icecream and woolly blankets. I need to go away for a while.
Yours truly,
soda.
By the way, I’m asking that the other thread be closed. I don’t see how anything can be added to what’s already been said.
no reason to appologize to me. If you felt/feel that I was angry with you, or hating you, that wasn’t my intent.
I’m sorry you’re in pain.
my best to you, honestly.
we’ve all made mistakes, done things we regret.
I never thought you should appologize for your feelings.
as a matter of fact, don’t know if you checked back in that one, but I’d spotted a prior thought you’d posted in another thread that may have, IMHO, signaled your lonliness, and desire to be part of a family.
enjoy your ice cream, know that people still care.
soda, having been cheated on by my ex-fiance I know the betrayal and anger felt from the other side of things. At the least, you have spared his wife that for now. If others felt the way you do and realized they are hurting other people while trying to make themselves happy, the world would be so much better.
I have done things I am not proud of in the past. It’s hurts now, but later you can look back on this with pride knowing you had the dignity and integrity to walk away.
As I posted, I’ve been through similar choices. For what it’s worth, I just want to say that you’ve earned some respect from me. I know how hard that was.
That took tremendous strength and character soda. I always thought you were a good person. You did the best thing, even though it hurts your very soul, and I respect you for doing it.
You’ve earned some respect from me as well, soda. That took courage to do, and to admit to all of us. I agree with the others. Take care, be well, and let God heal your heart. We’ll keep the light on for you.
{{{{{{{{soda}}}}}}}}
<hands her an extra gallon of 'scream, my favorite wooly blanket, an extra big box of Kleenex,and heads quietly out the door>
I applaud you for recognizing and undertaking the right thing to do.
Sorry that you feel lousy right now, but that will go away.
You just made one tiny contribution to the betterment of mankind, in my opinion. Everybody, everywhere, doing such things add up to making this world a better place.
It hurts and it sucks, but what is right often doesn’t feel good for a while. This is one of the things that makes the right things odamned hard to do. And what makes good people good for doing them.
If it makes you feel any better (hopefully it will), there are guys out there like your old friend, but they’re not married and not about to cheat on their nonexistent wives.
I don’t know that I can say it any better than the previous posters…but since I “jumped” on you for your previous actions, I feel I should say “adda girl” for this action…Like others have said, however painful, this IS the right thing to do for all concerned …have a pint of Ben & Jerrys on me
