Hey, Scuba_Ben, I’m not sure where you are located, but if you were looking up True Pisces because you live in PA, consider dropping me a line.
I moved to PA just about a year ago and don’t know many people here; most of my friends live in NJ. I’m not looking for a relationship, but I can always use a friend. And I am a huge flirt, and wouldn’t mind helping you hone your skills. Or just e-mail me and we can flirt that way. The address is in my profile.
I think this is a good idea, and I hope you do it. I’ll definitely watch for it.
I live in the Philly suburbs, and Dutch Springs (my “location”) is between Allentown and Bethlehem. (As it happens, I’m going up there this weekend to go jump in the lake.)
I met TruePisces back in February at the first Philly Dope Fest; my overstuffed schedule kept me away from her Dope Fests since then. Now that my schedule is more open, I’m looking to start attending the fests.
Sounds like a good idea. Please check your email, Wintermute.
:: Addresses everybody ::
I sent out a couple more messages this morning. I made sure that everything I said related directly to something in the lady’s profile, and I asked open-ended questions about the ladies’ interests. (In one case, I outright asked what interests she had that weren’t in her profile.) I also realized, this time, that it’s quite possible the dating site requires members to pay to make any contact through the site, including replying to emails, so I included my cell phone number. (I know I did this in at least one case, but I’m not sure if I did this in all cases.)
So further constructive commentary will be migrating to MPSIMS next week in the S.S.S.S.
I wouldn’t put my cellphone # in right away, I used to put my email addy in there if it was a ‘pay to respond’ type of site. Most women i’ve met online wouldn’t have a phone call be the first type of contact.
I eventually got to the point where my notes would be “Hey, i liked your ad, check out my ad, and let me know if you want to talk.” Not sure if that worked better or worse, but I didn’t have to wrack my brain for intelligent discourse with someone I didn’t know.
I’m keeping pace with you, Cheesesteak. I’ve checked the site and they say that members only need to pay to initiate contact; replies are free. So I shouldn’t need to send out my cell phone # so soon.
If you’re in the Bay Area, Craigslist.org is a great place to meet people. All of it is free, and people are pretty honest about what they are looking for and what they are like.
Hmmm, none taken, since I didn’t even say that in my post, much less in my ad
And, I wasn’t asking for advice. My ad says exactly what I want it to say. It’s very similarly worded (just updated) to the one I placed about 15 years ago that netted about 300 replies, about 30 dates, and one very-long-term relationship. I’m not getting answers this time because I’m fat, and I’m very upfront about it, not because I have “negatives” in my ad.
