Tonight my husband of 5 years and my love for 9, have decided to separate. I’m confused, angry, hurt and mixed up, but I guess I’ll cope. Ya’ll are the first people outside of my immediate household I have told, because none of my family lurks here, and I would rather tell them myself then have them find out on the Internet. Speaking of which, I will have Internet where I will be staying, at least for the time being, so if anyone is interested, I will be posting updates. Say a little prayer or send some mojo my way, huh? I could use it.
I’m sorry to hear your news - best of luck in sorting everything out. If the well wishes of a complete stranger would help at all, you’ve got mine.
Nicole
Oh dear, I’m so sorry .
Wishing you peace and strength as you get through this.
Good luck.
Man, seems to be a lot of this going on right now. Is there something in the air?
There is a lot of stress from the current economic situation - more than enough to go around.
I am sorry to hear your news. It is always a sad and confusing time when this happens. Sending supporting thoughts your way.
Sending lots of good thoughts and prayers your way. I’m sorry to hear about this, and I know how much it hurts.
Mojo’s in the mail, janis. I hope the other emotions you’re feeling outweigh the hurt.
…he said, alertly. 
I’ve been wishing you luck as well.
I’m sorry to hear that. I send you a small chunky of my very limited mojo. I came close to suggesting a seperation to my wife recently and venting to the dopers helped - I think. A lot of strong opinions here.
I am so sorry. Is there any way you two can work this out?
I’m sorry to hear it. It sounds like it was your husbands’ idea. I hope things work out for you both, sometimes a little time apart can give a new perspective on the situation.
I’m sorry. I wish you strength to get through a hard time. Vent away here, I do think it can help.
Sorry you are having to go through this. If it’s his idea to separate, why do you have to be the one to move out?
Wow, this had been a bad month for Doper marriages. There’s always more mojo to go around so I’ll send you some virtual {{{{{hugs}}}}}. Take gentle care of yourself.
Thanks for the mojo you guys, I appricicate it. I feel a lot more peaceful now about this now. I will fill in more details later. I had made a longer post about this, but the internet ate it, I did want you guys to know I was feeling better, so thanks!
No, there isn’t. To be honest, there are things I’m amazed I’ve put up with for 9 years. You see, no matter what, I’ve always been as honest as I can with him. and I do have feelings for someone else (Mind you, up to that point I had not acted on thoes feelings) HIs responce was that maybe we should seperate… To be honest, I was really surprised that he said this. I had been feeling distance between us, but assumed it was all on my end. After a couple more days of consideration, he told me that he didn’t love me anymore, when I posted the OP. The next day he’d changed his mind, but… too late. (Turns our because of a medicine imbalance that he actually might have not been in his right mind when he said this… The unfortunate fact is he was still correct. He and i are holding each other back.) It was like someone has bopped me over the head and woken me up. He and I are just not good for each other, and that was the deciding factor. It wasn’t just that I wanted out, and wanted to be with someone I AM way more compatible with (Although that is the case) I wanted to free him of me too. I don’'t like the person I am when I’m with him She is spiteful, hateful and unhappy. Execpt for financial and logisitical worries, once I had made the decision to accept this, I’ve been happier the last couple of weeks than I have for a long long time, maybe ever.
Anyway, If anyone’s interested I can still update the thread, and thanks again for the mojo. It truly helped. (Kepp sending it!! )