Your husband has a “friend” with a big mouth.
Well I’m a woman, and my thought is “Who cares?”
But since you obviously do, it’s a problem in your head. Rather than seeking marriage counseling, I would seek some individual therapy. Figure out why exactly this is bothering you so much, and then decide your best course of action.
Yes, it does seem like a silly thing to get bent out of shape about.
Is this the first man you’ve ever met? It doesn’t seem that odd to me that a man might enjoy such things.
Ladies, men go to strip clubs. Men look at other women, watch porn, and masturbate. Not every single one of us does, and not necessarily all of those things, but it’s extremely likely, nay guaranteed that any given man does at least one of these things regularly.
I realize how difficult this can be to grasp, but I promise you, and I am certain every other man here will concur, IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU. It’s just something we do. It’s not absolutely necessary that we do it, and it’s not really even about sex. It’s difficult to explain exactly why we do it; it’s probably just habit more than anything.
is that where the strippers hang out?
So the stripper was really you in disguise?!
You have tits and an ass, no? Get to it!
Wait, so it was the discussion of fitness that bothered you?! What if they were talking about personal training sessions for you? Are you trying to ruin a nice surprise?
Judging from your post, if you had said “fuck the strippers” you might have been upset with the outcome.
He’s a healthy virile heterosexual male.
Likely all true. Even after he begged.
Oh, this marriage is going swimmingly.
You did say newly married, right? I do hope you are spending some quality time sitting on his face.
Given the way most strippers operate, it probably didn’t go any further.
OK…maybe a handjob.
I suggest counseling.
Does the attention include the tits in the face and the touching of the ass. I hear he likes that.
Now I thought you had said that you hadn’t been to strip clubs. Don’t go throwing out prejudices and stereotypes here. Lots of strippers are just hard working students struggling to get through college.
Do you remember the double mint gum commercials? It’s like that.
You won’t get any sage advice here, because you misspelled “past”.
It’s really not that uncommon.
It’s unfortunate that he had his bachelor party before seeing you after a long absence, and it’s unfortunate that he caved to his friends/libido after you had asked him to stay away from strippers, and it’s unfortunate that he didn’t volunteer the info or confess right away after being asked, so I get that you feel “wronged”.
But big picture-
-His friends probably determined the timing of the bachelor party.
-If his friends hired a stripper, they (probably) didn’t ask him first, especially if they thought he might say “no”.
-Whether he wanted to “succumb” or not, there was probably some peer-pressure involved. I know you won’t see it this way from where you’re standing, but he might have felt it was churlish to reject his friends “gift”.
-He may be a bit embarrassed at the whole thing (would that make you feel better). I can understand that he was not eager to confess this act to you, especially after you asked him not to go to a strip club.
I know it’s hard to trust him just now, but try to look at the reasons you wanted to marry, and try to see past this escapade, if you can. It would help if he apologized. Counseling would help you move past this or otherwise deal with it, too.
Mebbe you should take your own advice.
It was my understanding that lots of strippers were hard working single parents.
Only if they bring their own pole. 
Anything close to this will get a warning. It’s threadshitting at best or trolling at worst. If you have problems with the OP or doubt the veracity of the story take it to the Pit or just stay out of the thread.
And that’s not just for those two, no one else gets a free shot.
Nope.
Isn’t it obvious? Gather up your friends and head on over to a male strip club!
My dear child, and I’m probably old enough to be your grandpa, The peer pressure at a bachelor party can be intense, and a guy “has to” show he’s not a “wimp.” He didn’t succumb, which I would assume means he had sex with the stripper, which he denies. Accept that as fact, whatever you really believe, slap him for being an asshole (make sure he’s not one to punch you in retaliation first!), say you forgive him, and keep an eye on him. Guys have two heads, and they need to think with the top one, unless they are extraordinarily endowed. (A joke seemed required.)
And I understand your need to speak with people you don’t know. I use these randos for the same thing.
Well … either this is a deal-breaker, and you might as well divorce him now … or it’s not a deal-breaker, which means you forgive him and move on with your lives …
You should know his history with these types of things … is he a rover with a wondering eye, then you shouldn’t have married him … is this just a one-time event, then get over yourself … you do not own him now … the whole idea that he can’t even talk to another woman because of something that happened before you two were married is over the line … what about your history, did you bring your virginity to the marital bed? … if not then shame on you !!!
ETA: It may be he never even thought of going to a strip club until you told him not to go … why did you remind him that he had one last chance before he’s forever tied to the ground …
ETA2: In stead of slapping him, complain about pubic lice the next few days …
ETA3: Yeah, let’s clean up the written English … some people are offended at being called a ewe …
Actually his friends weren’t the ones to tell me
I’m a woman, married 21 years, and I say let it go. He chose you. Bachelor/bachelorette parties can get a little crazy sometimes. You mentioned you should have said no strippers. If I were your newly wedded husband, that might’ve made me run right to the nearest strip club. Have conversations, don’t give orders and ultimatums. I’m an adult, I assume you and your husband are. Imo, most adults do not like being told what they can and cannot do. Enjoy the early days of your marriage 
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I wasn’t looking for someone to solve my issue. Just looking for advice
I thought about this but now we are married and two wrongs don’t make a right
Right…? 
Yeah my grammar was terrible. I was on my computer without spellcheck or auto correct and my mind was tired. I could care less about how I forgot apostrophes and commas at that point.