Wow, that’s a brilliant cartoon.
I’m not so sure it was unwarranted.
From what I’m gathering here from you and other posters who know your history better than I, it sounds to me like you’re going to pursue this in some form or another (which is beyond stupid and wandering into masochistic).
Just know that the cartoon pbbth linked to is dead on, with the more likely outcome that SHE WILL NEVER DATE YOU OR SLEEP WITH YOU.
EVER.
Get this through your head. She’s just using you as a safety net for her f*cked up self-image and insecurities. That’s all you are to her.
If that’s cool with you, and you’re willing to hang up your self-worth and and leave your man-card at the door, then by all means press ahead and wind up getting your ass kicked at some point by the boyfriend, hoping she’ll help bandage you up and paying attention to you. Have fun.
For the love of all that’s holy, grow a pair, get some self-respect and stop acting like such a pussy…or what Brandon said.
Autolycus, I really wouldn’t worry about his either way. If it was from the boyfriend, well that’s understandable, and he doesn’t really know you does he? Who cares what his opinion of you is?
If it’s from the girlfriend, it’s ironic that you were good enough for her to start seeing but now you’re not. If it’s her it almost sounds like she’s trying to hurt you just so she can make a clean break and stay with the boyfriend, at least for now.
I know it really sucks when you’re more into them than they are you. Been there, done that, will do it again I’m sure.
Some tough love might be called for here, but let’s please keep the advice in bounds for MPSIMS.
Do you have a job? Do you like your goatee? Are you comfortable at your weight? If so, screw this guy. Like yourself. Like yourself enough not to be some chippy’s mindgame.
As much as it pains me to say it, you’re inviting anger when you are putting yourself in the middle of what you know to be a tense, jealous relationship. What do you want this girl for? So she can do the same to you someday?
Actually, it’s pretty common for people to stay logged onto Facebook as long as their computers are on (which, for many people, is all day and all night). So if he wouldn’t need to know her password or anything to browse her messages. The fact that it’s Facebook and not email is doubly important, I think. There’s something about it that turns people into petty children and the internet into a high school hallway. I don’t doubt that Auto was hurt the same way someone would be if they found these things scrawled on a bathroom wall. Sure they’re lame insults, but they still sting.
And yes, it does sound like the woman in question here is a total flake. It’s one thing to not know what you want or to change your mind, but that’s what nice long periods of singledom are for. She’s a dick for finding dudes to indulge her.
Somewhere out there is a girl for you. And when you find her she won’t be in a relationship with someone else. Let this go. It isn’t good for any of you, and you need to know that, even if she doesn’t. There are more chances for you, but you need to get you together first, so you don’t keep feeling like you have to go for whatever offers.
I’m really sorry you’re hurting over this, but use it as the impetus to move on and up.
Dude. Screw that. They’re on thin ice as it is. You know that those kinds of relationships don’t last. Follow the advice (except the goatee. Grow mutton chops) and be a homewrecker in the relationship.
Then leave it when it’s broken.
Oooooooooooooh, I like the way you think. 
Autolycus showed a lot more class than the BF hiding behind his GF’s Facebook account, hurling insults.
All’s fair in love and war. If Auto wants to hit on the girl who obviously is not so “in love” with BF to stay with him steadily then more power to Auto.
If the girl and her on/off BF are meant to stay together than Auto’s challenge won’t matter. If not, she might be the girl for him.
There’s a lot of women out there who married “the guy” who convinced them to give up “the jerk” who was their steady boyfriend.
Well, we don’t really know for sure it was the boyfriend, do we? How can we be so sure it wasn’t the girl?
It’s also part of the war to get smacked down by the boyfriend. If “all’s fair,” then then you can’t cry about it when you lose or when the other guy fights back.
I dunno; maybe Auto should just enjoy all the drama while he’s young and has the energy for it.
I wouldn’t do this. The e-card was likely sent to everyone on her mailing list and not any indicator that she wants to get back in contact. She hasn’t spoken to you in 3 months. She’s not going to want to hear you tattling on her boyfriend.
It’s entirely possible the message was sent with her knowledge. Imagine her standing behind his back, giggling as he sends it - “OMG bf you’re so baaaaaad!” - and use that image to forget her. She’s chosen him over you twice already. She doesn’t want to know you. It’s time to move on.
I’m sorry you’re hurting.
Yeah that was my thought as well, some guy smack talkin ya would be annoying , but for the gut punch reaction had to be her.
Declan
All the more reason to play it cool and get yourself shaped up, to be ready for the day when she comes crawling to you (even if only in her own mind).
I’m with the other posters who said move on. Even if she replies with an apology and says yes to being friends, it seems like you’re still very fond of her and this would make for a pretty screwed up friendship.
Maybe you are hoping that one day she’ll see the light and dump his sorry ass but if she wanted to she would have done it long ago. It’s not worth it getting to the bottom of this as it would just prolong your contact with her and your pain. IMHO it’s not really important to know whether he sent it or she sent it, even if the thought of her saying such things hurts a lot.
If you’re ever going to contact her about the e-mail, the proper tone is bemused and amused condescension. If you can’t pull it off, don’t contact her.
Firstly, that’s not ironic. Secondly, she was never seeing Auto. There was a week or so of supposed flirting , then they bumped into each other a couple times months later. If you think that’s “seeing” someone, welcome to Stalkerville.