Glad to hear you’re back at it! Finding yourself single again after a long time isn’t easy, no matter what the circumstances.
As mentioned above, it’s what’s inside that counts. And if it’s you getting inside, so much the better. 
To paraphrase an old saying some of us guys use: “It doesn’t matter how big she is, it’s what you do with her!”
(And norinew, I know a fat lady who would second your third suggestion. 
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Lord help me, but I thought this was funny.
And a report from another big girl:
From behind, on the side, legs up high, me astride… IT’S ALL GOOD! (He never EVER complains, )
And foreplay is a must… absolutely. From both parties!
well, her blood type is gravy.
I can understand why a person who could honestly accept his own attraction would still want the validation of others, especially when the object of his desire was socially unacceptable to many.
You know we’re all picturing you in a little skirt and shaking pom-poms now, right?
You’re 2 for 2 on the insults in this thread. Care to step into the Pit?
:dubious:
Is that supposed to be a deterrent?
Talk with the fat woman in question! 
For the record, I don’t think hlanelee is looking for external validation for his attraction to a “fat girl.” It sounds like he’s looking for specifics on how to make sex with one easier. I have dated a woman who was severely overweight (over 300 pounds) and yes, that kind of obesity really does make sex much more difficult. We weren’t together for long (a month or so) but in that time we discovered that the aforementioned “face down” position worked particularly well.
Trunk, enough with the impertinent comments. They’re not funny . . . they’re rude and insulting.
Cajun Man
for the SDMB
I’ll bite. I once nearly went out with a fat girl. We were good friends, and after I broke up with my long-term girlfriend, she came on to me and I … didn’t know how to take it.
I was caught off-guard because she was “just a friend”, and, natch, I thought of her that way in large part because she was fat.
I met up with her again about a year later, and found I was more attracted to her, but I had missed my chance. It was too bad. I always regret that I didn’t return her affection (not that I was an a-hole to her … but I still turned her down, however gently). I missed out on some good times, I think.
Don’t miss out.
(Of course, now I’m married to a great girl, so I can’t really regret much of anything, I guess.)
If it doesn’t work out with her, care to give me a call? :smack:
After I had a major hysterectomy and a huge tumor removed, I started to gain some serious weight. I had balloned up to 210 lbs. My husband never said anything specific to make me feel bad except he stopped complimenting me, he stopped touching me and trying to make me feel good. We stopped going anywhere. You could see that he bagan taking me for granted and even went so far as to say noone could love me like this.
Well, we are now in the process of a divorce and I have not been able to go on a second date with anyone for fear of exposing my body.** Treat her like she is beautful, which she sounds like she is and she will melt in your eyes. **
On the other hand, before I met my husband, I had a lover who absolutely thought I was the most beautiful woman in the world. I lost 85 pounds in 8 months with ease because I wanted him to see how really beautiful I could be. He has been my best friend and he is helping me to get over my ex.
Sensualips, wow! What an asshole! I sometimes think I had an edge in this department, because I was fat when we got married, so he knew it right from the start! But still, even if you’re a man who is not attracted to fat women, and your once-svelte wife gains weight, what about the part in the vows about “For better or for worse” and all that? I think it’s a big problem that too many people just mouth the words, paying no attention whatsoever to the content.
Okay, that’s enough of a hijack from me!
This is probably just me, but I noticed you led with the dates - so if you’re still reading this thread, and part of your question was “is this too soon”, my answer would be “things happen when they happen, good for you”.
If I’m completely off base here, please just ignore me and I’ll slink away.
**Asteroide ** I asked my mom back in August , “is this too soon?”
Mom told me that since last January I’ve been telling her that I always expected to come home and find my wife dead, she had been sick. She believes that I have mourned and says to move on. I’m pleased with my new girlfriend, she’s spending the weekend with me, she doesn’t mind when I mention my wife, and we have lots of fun together.
I’ve got to go cook a piece of salmon on the grill now. Thanks everyone.
Ahem, many of us prefer terms like voluptuous to fat, or curvy, generous, Rubenesque, etc.
To add to some of the practical advice in this thread, don’t be afraid to caress her, all of her. Some fella’s seem to not want to draw attention to the extra flesh so concentrate all their attentions on the popular destinations instead. Be vocal and sincere in your appreciation of her sexually, as someone who knows she’s outside the accepted beauty standards she might well love hearing it.
And to quote the sagacious Indiana Jones,
“I don’t know. I’m making it up as I go along.”
And, to keep with with movie cliches, Have fun stormin’ the castle!
I’d never thought of using pom-poms…
:: Sunspace breaks into a sweat ::
[sub]//me like curvy voluptuous women…[/sub]
Sunspace How YOU doin?
Why, very well thank you, Sensualips! And you?
:: Sunspace fans himself ::