I love my wife dearly but she is a brainwashed Evangelical Trump supporter

The problem with Trump is not his politics. Imagine your wife supports a kangaroo for President. You could say that’s a political disagreement, or you could say she is supporting an idea that is completely irrational and unworkable. Trump was utterly unsuited for the position, due to moral, ethical, intellectual failings beyond anything we’ve seen before. That can’t be shrugged off as “politics.”