You’re exactly right. Bikers are a sort of fraternity. They give the biker wave when passing on a road. On a Honda Shadow message board I frequent I’ve been asked to go riding numerous times by perfect strangers. It’s a biker thing.
The bikes are a great opening to keep things going. Then it’s up to Red to interpret whether she’s interested in him as friends, as more, or not really at all. But nothing ventured, nothing gained. Sometimes things just happen, but just as often something needs to be done.
I just said “fuck it, I’m going over there” – so I rode up walked up to her door, and thank god she answered. We talked for a little while, then I asked for her # and got it!
Of course, I’ve learned not to get excited at this point, but we’ll see what happens.
Because I’m a spineless sack of something. But come on, you know you enjoy the suspense
Nope, wasn’t too bad, and I wasn’t even that nervous until she actually answered the door, at which point I became a stumbling moron for the next few seconds, but I recovered thankfully.
Haha, funny you ask – I totally forgot about this when I started talking to her, and I’m still not sure what I would have done had I remember. THANKFULLY, she wrote her name down along with her phone number! I don’t know what I would have done if she hadn’t!
Yep, me too. I’m on a Kawasaki board, and got an email and phone call from a guy last week that lives in town and wants to go for a ride sometime. Heck, I think he even offered to split a room with me at a rally a bunch of the guys on the site are going to, but I’m not sure. I don’t think I’ll have time with all the rugby I’ve got going on this summer, but at least I’ve got somebody to call when I want to go for a Sunday ride.
By the way, Red, met any gals on the subway lately*?
*You’ve got the plane and automobile, you just need the train now.
Of course – sorry it took me so long, I meant to respond much sooner, but I kept putting it off because I just coudn’t find the motivtion to write this post. But alas, here I am (I know how frusterating it can be to get involved in these threads, then never find out what happened.)
Sadly, I have nothing but bad news to report. So a few days after getting her number, I gave her a phone and she sounded (at least a bit) excited to talk to me. We talked briefly, then I asked her if she wanted to play some pool that upcoming weekend. She mentioned that she had work or something, but she’d call me the day before to let me know if it’d work or not.
Day before came…and went…with no call. And I, of course, haven’t heard anything since. Sigh…
She’s already established that she’s a little flaky and won’t initiate a phone call, but that it’s OK for you to call her. That’s just the way she is. Sounds like she expects you to take the lead, so take it.
Never make ambiguous plans where she has to call you to verify. She won’t, and you’ll feel like a sap sitting by the phone waiting for her. “Let’s meet up on Saturday, 7pm, Minnesota Fats’ Pool Hall and Grill. See you there.” If she hems and haws and says she might have to work and maybe she’ll get back to you, then tell her you’ll call her next week. There is no date this week. Go ahead and make other plans.
Heh, I’ll feel like a sap calling her again, 2 or 3 weeks now since it happened. Meh, I’ll just let it be and continue my amazing streak of being an utter failure at the dating game.
Yeesh, this is the longest training session I’ve ever had, and I still can’t muster a passing grade.
What have you got to lose at this point by calling her? Give her a definite plan, see if she wants to go, and if she expresses uncertainty, tell her you’ll call her the day before to see how her plans have shaped up.
