Well, the tests came back that the damage in in her left ventricle, and she’s at 50% of her heart function. I’m trying to find out how bad that is. She is feeling better now…the diuretics have been clearing her lungs up, so she feels well enough to complain about the food. Never thought I’d be happy to hear her grousing 
I called the CSE people, he is in their computers. The lady I spoke with said that they start garnishment after he misses two payments, so it won’t happen till March. At least it will happen, though.
For the SSI thing…I know Aaron has ADHD (he takes ritilin for it) and I know he’s been diagnosed with something else…mom and dad have never said what, but he goes to a psychiatrist once a month. I haven’t mentioned that to them yet, but any money helps.
I’m going to look into the other suggestions too. Thanks for the kind thoughts and the help. At this point, doing stuff is probably better than seething. It helps that I don’t know his phone number or precisely where he is…otherwise the temptation to call and let him know just how angry he’s made the rest of us would probably be overwhelming.