I should have quoted Sir T-Cups, actually. I’m on his train!
Sir T-Cups
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you just had a breakup [thread=515664](according to Skald’s ‘to whom would you give a liver’ thread’) [/thread] everything looks dark. Give it time. Reinvent your life if it sucks so bad. Get new friends, volunteer, walk across Australia (bring a hat, and some water and sunscreen).
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Things could be a lot worse. You are not starving, you are not, I presume, in prison. When I was a kid, I met a guy who had spent 6 years in a Vietnamese prison camp. Ever since then, I’ve told myself “hey, could be worse, I’m not in a Vietnamese prison camp”. Gitmo may work for you. Nor were you just run over by a ship, terminating your epic Kon-Tiki-like voyage one day short of it’s victorious conclusion.
I have a hard time reading something like this and not responding. However, I realize that I am less than expert when it comes to the communication patterns of homo sapiens. If I am misinterpretting your post please just ignore me.
I have several ideas that may be helpful. I encourage you to look at the quoted statement above and ask yourself if you are not trying to take your entire life at one gulp. If you tried to imagine all of the food that you will eat for the rest of your life, it would probably fill serveral restaurant refrigerators. All the meat and bread and juice and milk and veggies and fruit… it would daunting to imagine eating it all. This isn’t a novel idea, but I hope you can see that trying to take the entirety of your life at one glance is a distortion.
One day at a time, as they say.
Also, look back on the life you’ve had so far. Has it been all the same? Have there been high points and low points? Improvements and setbacks? Do you have any rational reason to believe that things will always be the same in the future or would you reasonably conclude that there will be changes? If there will be changes, then it would seem reasonable to conclude that some things will get better and some things may get worse.
It is not rational to conclude that things will always be the way they are, that they cannot get better and that the rest of your life will be an endurance test.
That’s not to say that it’s going to be a carnival.
Sorry if I have missed the point of this thread. Feel free to e-mail me if you would like and keep in mind that their are tools and resources available that you should use.
I did that - I still can’t make those 4 chords sound like anything remotely melodic.
The second time I ever felt like this I got a few sheets of paper and wrote down every single thing in my life that I dreaded, despised, and generally just pissed me off. It was a very long list, very detailed.
Then I read through the list and, without even thinking why, I marked each item as “I can control this” and “I can’t control this.” Surprisingly, about 80% of the stuff on my list were things in my control. I wish I could accurately describe how that one little revelation affected me right then. I could CHANGE those things! It was very empowering.
The other 20%, I decided, just were not worth getting upset over.
So I started making surprisingly tiny little changes to clear off most of my list. That felt…amazing.
Perhaps this is something you could try. I was hating my life because I felt like such a victim and that I had no control over anything. Turns out I really did.
Hope this helps. 
Myrrajh, that’s awesome.
I usually just yell this kind of thing at the mirror when I’m alone, but if venting on a message board works for you, by all means…
If the feelings persist, please get therapy.
I suggest indulging a violent hobby, like target shooting or picking bar fights.
If you don’t want advice, feel free to skip this, but:
You should adopt a mantra. Something to distract you from your most obnoxious, frightening, and depressing thoughts. It doesn’t have to be complex. Mine’s ‘5’.
I always just remind myself that no matter how bad things are, getting kicked in the nuts would still make them worse.
I would second the advice to get evaluated for depression, if the feelings persist and they’re always accompanied by the belief that nothing will ever get better.
Also, may I recommend starting a journal? It may seem very junior high, but having a safe place to vent your frustrations is very nice, and being honest with yourself will help in so many ways. I’ve found that whenever I start a self-pity entry, it will continue on for several pages until I get all my frustrations out, then it’s like a switch flips and I start addressing each individual problem and creating a plan of attack.
Looking back through my various journals, I don’t always follow my own advice, but just the act of venting and then planning ways to improve always gives me the push I need to actually get out of bed in the morning. And when you’re feeling better, it’s a great way to give yourself a pat on the back which only encourages you to make more improvements. Even if you’re just bragging that you ran 3 miles today or finished your entire week’s homework in time to veg out and watch a Law and Order marathon, it’s still a nice way to tell yourself “Good job.” Because Og only knows that if you call up your friends or interrupt your coworkers to brag that you finally stopped procrastinating and scrubbed your whole apartment, they’d think you were nuts.
Neither can most people at open mic nights. 
For making a thread I knew I would regret (I don’t get me wrong, I very much do), and really had no intention of ever looking at it again (because…it would remind me I made it ya know), and overall doing something I never do (open myself up to something like this), I am quite surprised by the amount of attention it has gotten.
Needed and heeded advice, people relating, even someone who recognized me from another thread (it’s this reason by the way I don’t do things like this ever, a great fear of alienating myself and being “that guy”).
Certainly glee hit a note that I do actually use to keep myself going when things are at their worst (like, say, when I made the thread…) and that is: If nothing else, I can lose myself in obscurity on the SDMB!"
Which brings me to another small point I kinda mentioned earlier, and definitely a point of surprise/pleasentness. Attack…Dimention pointed out something I said in another thread…and…it’s weird to think that someone noticed me. This is such a large and diverse message board, and I am quite new here, and while I do post relatively often I never in my wildest dreams would have thought that someone would actually remember or give a shit about something I said in another thread. I have seen examples of other posters mentioning usernames, but I just attributed this to longevity on the site…quite normal in my mind, but me? No way. Is this a small example? Probably. Could I be finding light gray linings in clouds and convincing myself they’re silver? Why the hell not; but it is a very weird thing for me to think that I was actually noticed here.
So yeah…more random thoughts from me…
You’re just an insensitive dickhead. You didn’t lay out enough scenarios to be believable at ALL.
Have you ever noticed how pretty shades of grey in the clouds can be?
And silver is a bitch to keep polished anyhow.
Woking at it along with you, Sir T!
I’ve always felt the Serenity Prayer (short version) was kinda bass-ackwards. My freedom began exactly like you chronicled…FIRST I learned the Wisdom to know the difference between things I could change (namely me), and things I couldn’t change (other people), that helped me to get the Courage to start changing the things I could (my attitudes, activities, environment, choices, etc.), and these together led me to the Serenity to accept the things I could not change (rest of the world, fuck 'em).
If everything in your life totally sucks, then there’s nowhere to go but up, right? If you have nothing, you have nothing to lose! So run away and join the circus, join the army, join a cult, join a choir. Go off and live in the wilderness, like Grizzly Adams or the Dances With Wolves guy. Get a puppy, get a bicycle, get a kazoo. Read something corny and uplifting, like The Power of Positive Thinking or Chicken Soup for the Soul or a joke book. Walk around and smile at every cute girl you see, and see how many smile back. Adopt a new persona: go through the day pretending you’re James Bond or Jack Sparrow or Curly Howard. There’s always things you can do different, and when life sucks, different is good.
My personal method is Dirk Pitt. The ladies just love it.