I’m not entirely sure where to put this, but if divorce stuff goes here, maybe this does too.
Well, first of all, the accusations (if they’ve been made) are groundless.
I am divorced, but I get along really well with my ex-husband (the dad). We live very close to each other, within walking distance, and our kids pretty much stay at either house depending on what they want and our schedules. This has worked fine, and the kids are happy. And my ex-husband and I are happy. Everyone’s happy. Except my mom.
She thinks that somehow I got “screwed” in the divorce. She feels like I should have “taken him for all he was worth,” which is stupid because neither one of us is worth much. She thinks I should have gotten alimony, and a child support order. But what really makes her mad is, according to the actual divorce papers, my ex-husband’s house (the house we lived in and he kept after the divorce) is our kid’s legal residence. According to her, “he took those kids from me, and I’m too brainwashed to know it!” Well, if he took the kids from me, that’s a shocker, because they’ve been with me the past four days. She wants me to contest the terms of the divorce, and force my ex-husband to pay to have me committed to a psychiatric hospital to get me un-brainwashed, or something. She didn’t tell me that last part, incidentally. When my ex-husband heard about her freak out, he went to her house to try and calm her down, since they’ve always gotten along really well in the past, and she told him then.
Apparently, somehow, she has decided that my ex-husband is going to take the kids and not allow her to see them. She decided this because she and I got into an argument, and I told her I thought she had anger management problems and I wasn’t sure if I could have her in my life if she kept flying off the handle about things. (if you’re confused, don’t worry. It doesn’t make any sense)
So, she’s decided to call the Child Welfare Authorities. According to her, my kids say I won’t feed them. God only knows what other crazy lies she’s invented. I’m sure I have nothing to worry about, really; they were just at the doctor, and they are healthy and certainly not malnourished or anything. She knows these things are lies; she was trying to threaten me into doing what she wanted. If she wasn’t so angry she’d see this whole thing is stupid.
Anyway, what I want to know is, I guess, what I should do. If they come here, should I tell them about all this, or would that make me look “fishy”? She also wants to keep seeing the kids, but I don’t want her to. I’m not sure what she’s asking them, or what she’s saying to them, and I’m kind of scared she might try to kidnap them. Is there anything she can do to force me to let her see them? I tried reading up on grandparent’s rights, and it said if they had a viable relationship she might be able to. I’m pretty sure she qualifies for having a viable relationship, but she also qualifies as a nut. Is there anything I can do to protect myself? And also, should I look into getting a lawyer? I really can’t afford one, and I feel like, since her accusations are groundless I probably won’t need one, but I’ve never dealt with these agencies before, so I don’t know.
Any advice would be appreciated.