Is it possible that she knows fine well she’s pregnant, but is waiting for her 12 week scan before she tells you officially?
It’s also possible that she plans or planned to have an abortion and would rather not discuss the gory details with you. That’s what I’ve been thinking all along.
There are a thousand what ifs, the OP seems to overlook that. She is an unmarried, possibly pregnant, young women. She is friends with the OP, he’s said his piece.
Being a concerned friend does not mean that being overbearing is acceptable. She is struggling, no doubt. As a close friend it is your job to give her room to make hard decisions, life altering decisions. The sort of decisions where you have to step back to be able to decide and live with the consequences, with the comfort of knowing you made this choice for yourself. No one to blame when it gets hard. No room to second guess, “perhaps I let X, influence me too much!”. It’s a very healthy way to frame a life altering decision, and be able to be circumspect in the thousand tomorrows where she’ll have to live with her choice. A good or close friend should be mature enough to give her room, not apply pressure to know before she is comfortable saying.
When it comes to our most challenging and important decisions, our concerned friends and family need to accept that their well intentioned concern carries great influence because we love and respect them. Sometimes so much it clouds our own feelings.
It’s possible she needs to get to a place where she knows HER OWN views before sharing. This is a pivotal decision in her life, if the OP’s right! She needs to know she’s not doing something because it’s what others want for her, but because she wants it.
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So, was she knocked up or not?
there’s still time to knit booties.
Hello? Any word?
The jury is still out. She’s still putting on weight and still refusing to talk about it. If my calculations are right there’s just under 2 months to go. End of september should prove it one way or another. I haven’t raised the subject for a few months but the nagging voice is still at the back of my mind. But that’s where I’ve kept it.
This is highly disturbing. Does she look pregnant? By seven months, it should be pretty clear one way or another, just from the shape of her body.
In any case, I see two possibilities:
- Although not pregnant, she’s putting on enough weight in a short enough timespan that you, a father of three, think it is consistent with a seven-month pregnancy; or
- she is seven months pregnant.
Either way, this is not normal for a non-pregnant woman, and she needs to go see a doctor and she needs to go see one now. (If only for the sake of the poor potential!fetus! Is it even safe to have a contraception implant while you’re pregnant? But if she’s not pregnant, and she’s putting on that kind of weight while presumably eating and exercising as she was before, then there could be something else totally medically out of whack.)
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So what’s the story?
OP is online right now…that baby is either born by now or it’s not.
ETA: OP has chosen not to receive PM’s
And does she have a role on Downton Abby?
There’s a joke in there somewhere about period dramas I’m sure!
It looks like I was wrong. There has been no baby, but she’s still getting bigger. So either I got my dates completely wrong or there’s something else going on. A visit to a doctor would be a good idea, but all I can do is suggest it.
That was funny.
That was also funny.