I’ll take one for the team if I can vacation in sunny, wonderful Slutsylvania.
Please to repeat.
Is it fair to say most believe a woman that has had more partners than you is a slut?
People are the authors of their own moral code. Lots of people would be sluts if my moral code were applied to them (or I would be sluttish if I kept my personally defined ethics, but behaved like most people), and many people would think me a prude if they knew the details of my life. In the end, people can really only define themselves as sluts. Sluttitude is in the eye of the beholder.
I do think, though, that one’s sexual history and values are very much the business of a potential partner, if only for the sake of determining compatibility.
“You’re a slut? Eeeew!”
“You’re a virgin? Eeeew!”
“You had sex before? Eeeew!”
“You masturbate? Eeeew”
And so on.
If I had it to do over, I’d at least daytrip to Slutsylvania.
Frasier (from memory) (refering to Sam Malone):
Niles: He actually counted the number of women he slept with?
Frasier: Yes, and the number was in the hundreds.
Niles: Like any number over…8 matters.
Frasier: I would have said 11, but I see your point.
I must belong to a different generation.
When I was being considered as a housemate at a shared residence in college, the interview took place in the bathtub, with champagne.
5 in 3 years? How about 5 in one night? Some of the women in our household did multiple guys simultaneously, on a lark or whatever. (Not that the guys were any less active, btw)
My first ongoing-relationship girlfriend had a close friend who for over a decade had kept up with one guy for every year of her life, after achieving initial catch-up in her mid-30s.
It never occurred to me to ask for her own score-sheet, but I assume she’d been around and tried the waters pretty extensively. I thought it was entirely cool that someone with that depth of experience found something appealing in me!
Ahem–I believe neither of those things; I think sex should be reserved for a relationship of some sort, but not necessarily life-long.
As for what makes someone a slut; If you habitually have sex with people whose funerals you wouldn’t attend if they were killed in car accidents on the way home from your apartment, then you are a slut.
This is on the Slutsylvania state seal, btw…only its in latin.
I should have known better than to post something without an attribution around here…
Change “bitch” to “douche” in the case of a guy, and you’ve got a deal.
I think we have the winner. This belongs in Websters.
Yeah i think i’ve slept with people I probably wanted to get killed on the way home from my house
But, what if I’d totally go to their funerals if I knew about them, except that I’m not in the habit of reading the obituaries, or memorizing last names? 
Though it’s the lesser known of the two, for myself, I wouldn’t mind a weekend in Trampsachusetts.
Well, to be fair, I did say that the circumstances of a hook-up are pretty important to consider.
But hey, what’s wrong with that? When would you consider it appropriate to start having sex in a relationship? I guess I never felt that there was a timetable for this sort of thing.
Eh, the moment I posted it, I knew people would start calling me a prude. I don’t really think that’s fair, because I have a pretty liberal attitude about sex and sexuality. I’m just of the opinion that it’s not really a good idea to have outside of a committed relationship nowadays, for a variety of reasons, and that if you’re waiting a few months into a relationship before having sex, you’re not gonna have very many different partners in a given year. Unless you practice relationships with multiple partners at the same time. And hey, as long as everyone involved is aware of the fact and is okay with it, go right ahead.
ETA: Also, I’m a huge nerd, so you have to understand that I’m somewhat predisposed to assume that most people aren’t able to go from one relationship to another with only a week or so of “downtime” inbetween.
Missed the edit window.
And once again, I would like to emphasize that for me, being a slut applies to men equally as well as to women. It’s about the attitude, I just see numbers-over-time as a good general indicator of what the person’s real feelings about it are.
An example: I worked with a girl who seemed perfectly normal if you were just talking to her, but over the course of the time I worked with her, it became apparent she was hooking up with cute male customers in the parking lot, that she slept around with friends, and all the while was insanely jealous of her fiance if she caught him so much as looking at porn, let alone when she heard he went to a strip club. I qualify that as being a slut. At first her attitude wasn’t apparent, but knowledge of the sheer number of partners she’d had before she met her fiancee would’ve been a pretty good indicator at the outset.
And I thank you…
BTW, DianaG, I think the definition covers absences due to ignorance as well as apathy.
Except that you clearly do. You may feel that there’s no such thing as “too long”, but you certainly seem to feel that there’s such a thing as “too short”.
To me, a slut is someone who isn’t respectful of themself and their partners. Random hookups do not a slut make, as long as everyone involved is safe, fully appraised of and okay with the situation, and respectful. I may not make your funeral, but I’ll make you some coffee and let you use my shampoo if you like. What I *won’t * do tell everyone I know about it, snub you the next time I see you, stalk you for the next month, or do that friend you were with when I met you the next time I run into him. See what I’m saying?
What does “should” mean here?