I don’t think it exists anymore anyway.
I’m 6’ tall and I adore women that are taller than me. I don’t know what it is exactly… It’s actually a pretty good deal as many guys are intimidated by tall women and they are often glad for the attention 
To kiss him, she can stand on his erect penis like a cockatiel on his perch.
I think they were doing you a favor, albeit tactlessly.
At least one place was honest enough to not take your money when it was clear the women were seemingly unwilling to date you.
I’m 27 and I’ve been doing this since junior high. I thought I was the only one. If there’s a major turn-off I have, it’s arrogance, and I find the quieter guys are the most modest.
I love short men. My god, I do. I’m 5’2’’ and my husband is 5’7’‘. Maybe it’s coincidental but every guy I’ve ever had serious feelings for has been short. There was this lovely short Puerto Rican man at the office I worked in a couple years back… he was 5’5’’ at best, and 40 years old. We were both spoken for, so nothing could happen, but we connected on a pretty profound level and in another lifetime we’d definitely be hooking up. I was both sad and relieved when he transferred to another office.
Short guys are convenient. I can look into their eyes while I dance, and their bodies fit so perfectly well with mine. I remember dancing with a really tall guy once and he kept complaining I wasn’t looking at him. Jesus Christ, man, I’m not looking at you because it hurts my neck! Short guys just feel more intimate.
Yes indeed. 
I realise, re-reading this thread, that she’s the shortest woman I’ve ever been with. The last one was 5’2" and all the ones prior to that ranged from 5’6" to 5’11", so maybe I’m secretly heightist myself.
Agreed 100%. It’s disheartening to me to see so many people assign so many negative characteristics to women who just don’t want to date short men.
Shallow, superficial, incapable of deep relationships, immature, needy, and a dozen or so other ridiculous accusations. And no, I don’t only date tall guys so it’s not pride talking. People are attracted to certain traits and turned off by others. What you find a dealbreaker may be pretty silly to someone else. People usually have their reasons for feeling the way they do.
Come on, there’s a big difference between physical preferences and turning such into absolutes with regard who’ll you’ll even consider.
I’ve got very particular “types” of women that I’m attracted to, all with certain characteristics in common. But I’ve also found myself attracted to enough people outside those ranges that, empirically, I know it’d be foolish to be so dogmatic about such superficial preferences, never mind the principle of the thing.
Dealbreakers should really be reserved for issues you know will be destructive to the relationship: personality traits, life circumstances, history, baggage, etc. If you’re focusing on nonsense like height or bust size, you’re actually probably more likely to end up with a very attractive arsehole. Life has a funny way of teaching you important lessons sometimes.
Huh. I’m not comfortable saying what other people’s dealbreakers “should” be. Obviously YM does V. While you’re busy telling everyone not to judge books by covers it seems that you are doing that very thing. You’re assigning characteristics to people who have dealbreakers other than what you think they “should” have. Good to know.
It’s none of my business, really, if someone wants to needlessly limit themselves or chase after some ideal. But there’s always going to need to be compromise somewhere when it comes to preferences (unless you want to be single forever), so if you’re totally inflexible about what is essentially meaningless to the relationship, you’re going to need to be more flexible on things that really will matter long-term. Not exactly a recipe for success, IMHO.
So yeah, “should” as in “should, if you want long-term happiness”.
But like somebody said- on a dating website, you’ve got to limit your dating pool down somehow. No one here would be rolling their eyes at a woman who puts on her profile that she only dates men with college educations, even though that cuts a lot of surely good men out of the pool.
Education represents (to some extent) dedication, commitment and a somewhat broader, more nuanced worldview. (I think the correlation is very weak, but it’s there.) It also suggests a commonality of experience (if you also have a degree) and perhaps a potential for higher wages.
Again, how these factors correlate with tertiary education strikes me as weak, but at least it’s a meaningful indicator.
What does being tall say about anyone?
I know plenty of dedicated, committed, worldly, nuanced folks without college degrees who do very well for themselves. Education isn’t everything. How dare you limit perfectly good, hard working men because of some arbitrary bias you have against folks?
And one person being tall or short may very well dictate if someone else is attracted to them. So yeah, it can be telling and it’s silly to dismiss attraction.
Like I said, you have to limit people on dating websites somehow. I fail to see what’s wrong with mentioning what you are attracted to (height, body size, athletic hobbies vs computers/video games/ those kind of hobbies).
Does physical attraction have to be qualified? Like Diosa said, one has to narrow the search in some way. If a woman is only attracted to tall guys or young guys or heavy guys or guys with beards she owes no one any explanation. Same thing for men. Attraction is hard to explain. For you to pretend that is just shallow and means a recipe for no success is really silly.
ETA: I have a friend who is 5’8". Kind of tall for a female and she enjoys wearing heels. Some men feel self conscious if their date is taller than they are which was observed earlier in this thread. Some men can get over that, some men can’t. My friend has had more than one guy ask her not to wear heels so he can be taller. Now she looks for guys who are tall to avoid this self consciousness. If she were dating online it would be easier to say that she only dates men over 6 feet than to explain why. Narrowing the field.
I’ve never done online dating but I’ve heard a lot of people say that women tend to misrepresent their weight while men misrepresent their height. Perhaps a woman might say “tall men only” the same way many men will say “fit women only.”
I’m 5’3’‘- I have a guy friend who asks me not to wear heels when we go out because it makes his 5’6’’ self feel uncomfortable. He’s not my boyfriend, I’ve never so much as gone on a date with him, but he really harps on this heel thing and how it makes him feel.
See, as I see it, part of the joy of me being so short is that I can comfortably wear crazy high heels without towering over everyone. I mean, I can wear straight up stripper heels and still not tower. But even my 2-3 inch heels make this guy, who says all women should always wear flats (seriously), uncomfortable.
I know many such people, too. I wouldn’t use it as a criterion, but the point is simply that such indicators may actually tell you a little bit about the person beyond what they look like.
I don’t expect anyone to date someone they aren’t attracted to. But attraction is more holistic than a set of discrete physical criteria, surely. You can make mental checklists as much as you want, but if you have a thing for beards, don’t be surprised when a clean-shaven guy blows you away.
In online dating, this is trickier, I agree. Women get inundated with requests, so you have to be kind of choosy. So filter based on whatever you want. But again, I think it’d be foolish to nix some guy who is below average in height if, when you look more closely, his message/profile/photo seem to suggest someone you might actually be attracted to.
I agree with this completely. Sometimes you find that you’re attracted to things that make no sense to you based on what you normally prefer.
My only issue is that it seems that people are far, far too comfortable to assign negative traits to people who simply do not share their aesthetic or priorities. It’s far more narrow-minded than the people they feel superior to.
That they’re hot?
Hey, I’m cool with you ladies only dating guys taller than you are if you’re cool with me only dating girls thinner than I am. 
And if that’s what you’re attracted to, I’m not going to open a thread bitching and moaning that you don’t want to stick it to my fat ass. See? The Earth continues to spin, we all go along merrily.