And if I’m ever single again I will continue to be attracted to and date only men who: are short to average height, have dark hair, are neither chubby or skinny, don’t have a lot of body hair, and have perfectly straight teeth and handsome faces. Oh, and nice ears that are flat against their heads.
Right, I didn’t mean that was the be all and end all of all of the reasons a woman might prefer dating a taller man, but as at least two posters have alluded to, that can be a factor. And when I said a man can “short circuit it” again, I didn’t mean “be in full and total charge of boosting her personal self-confidence”. But yes, there are ways a man can behave that can appeal to all women that effectively disconnects the “I must have a taller man” button.
I think we’re really saying the same thing for different reasons. The men who, as you say “do not define their masculinity by how high they can reach” likely have a lot of self-confidence. That can definitely extend to their partner and make HER feel more confident, being a sort of positive “self-fulfilling prophecy” of sorts.
And if that self-confidence expresses itself in making her feel positive about herself, those warm fuzzies are most likely going to make the karmic rounds and come back to him (and so on and so forth and Scooby Doobie Doo). Whereas the man who’s already got his “bitter on” about the whole tall thing, probably isn’t going to be spreading those warm fuzzies.
The last one is especially nice and what prompted my post. It’s very nice and not nasty and bitter at all to flat out call someone a liar when they say how they go to theoretical guys like you.
“God, no one will date a guy who has a bald spot at only 25 :(. Why are they so shallow?”
“Actually, I love going up to younger guys who have thinning hair. I find that often they get less attention because of it but they’re often really nice and I get to have him to myself!”
Unfortunately, it’s considered more socially acceptable for women to prefer tall men than for men to prefer slender women. That’s why women often feel free to post their height requirements on singles sites, whereas a man would be browbeaten for saying “No overweight women, please” or words to that effect.
Yes, I do realize that several ladies here have said that it’s shallow for women to make height a dealbreaker. I commend them for that. I’m just saying that it’s more socially acceptable for women to express their preference for tall guys in the real world.
Yeah, seriously, what would happen if a man posted something analogous? “Please only respond if you are 34C or larger. It’s just my personal preference.”
I don’t begrudge a preference for a certain height, but there’s a clear double standard here.
Um, dating sites most certainly have where you put what you’re looking for. I assure you, searching for guys that are into bigger women gives significantly less results than “athletic,” “thin,” etc.
And what on Earth is wrong with a guy saying he’s into boobs or not? Some guys are attracted to boobs, some to asses, some to legs, some to hair. These are all things that make us want a potential mate over another. Someone who is into petite, flat chested women is not going to want to date my fat, big titty having, hour glass shaped body. Nothing wrong with that.
Yeah. I mean, if a guy has a dating profile that says he wants a woman with an “athletic figure”, that translates into “please respond if you are thin with smaller breasts”. If “curvy” is desired, it means he doesn’t want someone who has the athletic figure.
I lolirl (;)) at people who refuse to admit that the vast majority of people do have physical preferences, about attributes that may or may not be changeable. Fact is, there is no one who will appeal to everyone.
Nobody’s saying that having preferences is wrong, just that the expression of those preferences is treated differently depending on whether you are a man or a woman. If a woman expresses it, it’s “personal preference;” if a man expresses it, he’s being “shallow.”
But that’s what multiple women in this thread are refuting! Diosa is a woman, I’m a woman, Sleeps is a woman and so are others. We are flat out saying it.is.not.shallow to be attracted to what you’re attracted to!
