If there was one sexual thing nobody could know...

In My Humble Opinion
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Inspired by my sexual partners thread.

If there were one thing your current or future spouse/partner could never know about your sexual life, what would it be?

From reading the stuff in the thread about people’s sexual past and partners, I realized that we ALL have unique pasts, whether it was 100 sexual partners at 21 years old, or zero at 40, or the fact there was that one homosexual encounter out of pity, etc. It also got me thinking to my wife’s sexual past (it does not matter NOR bother me one bit) and her telling me she was with 13 different guys before (it does not bother either of us to talk). But I came to realize she is probably a little light, and I have learned some crazy things about her through our talking (we are a little freakish), and realized if she is telling me THIS, what is she not telling me?

The same goes for me, there are some things I HAVE NEVER told her, NOR WILL I, because I know it would bother the hell out of her.

So, what would you never tell anyone you are sexually/emotionally involved with, or at least never plan on telling them?

To start the thread out, of course, I will go first.

When I was in Australia, my friend and I were out on our first night in town. Within fifteen minutes (they loved American men at the time), I met a girl, went across the street to the beach and had sex with her. She was in a hurry and we both were done in about fifteen minutes. I went back to the club and about an hour later my friend and I met these two girls, went to their car and had sex with both of them (him with his girl, me with mine). What a freaking night! BUT, it was not over. We met this group of girls who were already with these other Marines they had met (about seven girls, us five guys). We decided to go have a few drinks at one of the girls apartments, and it got a little crazy. It turned in to a full scale orgy, and I think I did all seven of the girls.

No matter how open my wife and I are, this is a story I will NEVER TELL.

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You Sir, are my Hero!

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OH:::::::::Don’t let my story keep you all from telling yours. I regret 90% of my sexual past, only because I get bored easily. I am curious as to what we don’t know about our significant others.

All in the name of good science.

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I’d say it was that in spite of knowing full well of contraceptives, and the precautions necessary to take with people, I didn’t use a condom when I lost my virginity. Plus, she was on birth control pills (supposedly) but I didn’t ask for proof or anything, just stupidly trusted this person I met two hours before.

I did regret not using protection later, though, and have been tested for STDs twice- once after that and another time after another long-term relationship involving only BC pills as a contraceptive. I never got anything/got anyone pregnant, thank goodness, but it was choice I really regretted.

Frankly I’d rather have FormerMarineGuy’s dirty secret :wink:

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That I had a night similar to FormerMarineGuy’s. And I’m a girl.
Also - my husband is a Former Army Guy. He did a lot of stuff like you (and now, frankly, I’m afraid of what he isn’t telling me). What is it with military guys??

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Probably an ego thing.

You had a similar night? Meaning you were on the other end of the full-blown orgy? You didn’t happen to be in Australia in 1997, did you?

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No, I mean I cock-hopped all night to a grand finale. US soil, though, my dear.

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Good for you!

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My Guy and I had both had thousands of sexual partners before we met. In fact, that’s how we met. So we both pretty much have the attitude, “Gee, if we both hadn’t been such sluts, we wouldn’t be together right now.” So neither of us has any reason to hide anything.

Actually, his past is more extensive than my own, since he’s . . . um . . . way above average, anatomically, and started having sex at the age of 9.

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You know, I’m trying to think of something, and I’m not coming up with anything. I’m pretty sure that my boyfriend (who, with any luck at all, will be my last boyfriend) knows everything I’ve done, from the stupid (protection? who needs protection?) to the kinky (orgies, bondage, and bloodplay, oh my!) to the “will prevent me from ever having a career in politics” (it was an art video!) I’ve done some things I’m not proud of, and some things that were unforgivably stupid, but nothing I feel I couldn’t share with him. There are details he neither needs nor wants to know, but I don’t think that’s the same thing.

But I will say this - I will never, ever, ever tell one lover how s/he compares to others I’ve had in any way, shape, or form. I made that mistake once - what can I say? I was young and foolish - and I’ll never do it again.

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9? I thought me having sex at 12 was crazy.

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Shoot, I’m pretty open about my sexuality and sexual past. Plus, most straight guys have the whole “girl-on-girl action is hawt” thing going on, so telling them about the lesbian orgy I was in is just a way to turn them on. I went out with a guy a little while ago who was very curious about things like “So how many times have you had group sex, anyway?” and “What aren’t you into?” (which led into a discussion of the one time I did use a knife on a guy, at his request, and why I wouldn’t do it again). I don’t usually tell people that I enjoy erotic asphyxiation, although I will try to drop hints if the guy seems kinky enough. I guess the one thing I wouldn’t tell anyone about is the time I had sex with a guy only because we were alone at his place, he was getting really pushy, and I was concerned that he might get violent. I’m still friends with the guy - I’ve subsequently learned that he just gets pushy when he’s drunk, but if you get insistent, he’ll back down. If asked, I would tell someone that we slept together, and that the sex was terrible, but I wouldn’t say why I slept with him.

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[Eeyore] I am soooo dull. [/E]

The only thing I will not tell anyone is that I once had sex with my boss - after I had moved to another job. I had a huge crush on him, but the sex was lousy. Can’t use him for a reference anymore. :smack:

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Ditto. I don’t really have anything to hide either.

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OK, here goes nothing.

I had sex with two people this week and neither one was my husband.

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If I blabbed, my next gal would be liable to quote Cole Porter at me:
If you want a future, darling/Why don’t you get a past?

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OK, wow. :eek:

Deep dark secrets are one thing. * Recent* secrets are another thing entirely. Is this something that’s been repeated or is likely to be?

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That would definitely fall under something you don’t want your significant other to know!

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My wife knows everything about my sexual past that I’m willing to tell anyone, and the one thing she doesn’t know, I’m not about to reveal on this board, or anywhere else for that matter. She’s never pried, and I’ve never offered, and that’s the way it shall remain.

:wink:

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Yikes!

Mine is very similar to Shellibean’s. I had so much sex over the course of a week that two of my male friends (who knew about it but were not involved) started singing “I Get Around” by the Beach Boys every time I walked into a room. That week is responsible for half of my total of 30ish partners.