A few years back, I started dating a 23-year-old virgin. When we got married, she was a 24-year-old virgin…she was 26 when we separated.
There’s good advice in this thread so far, but I’d like to add one word, of, hopefully not extremist, caution. Though my ex-wife was a practicing Christian, that was not the real reason behind her premarital virginity. (Indeed, I remember her arguing spiritedly with our parish priest about whether the Bible precluded premarital sex.) She was also a recovering anorexic, and as a result had serious body image issues. Before our marriage, we had always both rather neglected the problem by telling ourselves we were saving ourselves for marriage. Afterwards, of course, the issues came out into the open, with predictably serious consequences. It didn’t destroy our marriage, but it did exacerbate the other problems.
I’m not saying your female friend has such issues, I hope for her sake she doesn’t. But if your relationship progresses further, I hope that you two will be able to communicate on this better than my ex-wife and I did.
You think similar tastes and hobbies is a good indicator of a long-term relationship’s viability? IMHO some contrasts are needed for a relationshiip to be viable (above and beyond the M/F contrast)
Lizard, this means that she is waiting until marriage, period. I wouldn’t take her lack of physical cues personally at all. If you’re willing to wait until you marry her (obviously very premature to decide right now!), then great. Otherwise, don’t count on sleeping with her, and don’t take it personally if you’re not the “one”.
