The last few days I haven’t been myself. I’ve been smiling… a lot.
Anyone not familiar with okcupid, it’s a dating web site where people answer multiple choice questions about relationships, morals, religion, sex, and other things. It then shows you the people of your preferred gender, and gives you a percentage on how much of a “match” the two of you are. The more questions two people answer the same way, the more of a “match” they are. There are also profiles, where you list your height, body type, age, religion, occupation, income… all of these listings are optional. You can also list the ideal age range you’re looking for in a mate, what gender you’re looking for, and if you’re looking for friends, short-term relationships, long-term relationships, or casual sex.
There was a beautiful girl I emailed that was listed as only a 30% Match for me, however, I can’t see her ‘Match Question’ answers, which indicates that she didn’t answer too many questions. At least that’s why I THINK I can’t see her answers. I figured if she didn’t answer that many questions, the low 30% could be due to that.
All her profile said was that she was looking for:
Guys who like girls
Who are single
For new friends
And that’s it… nothing more than that.
I figured I could use a new friend, though I admit she was very attractive, and who knows what could happen if we ‘hit it off’. To my surprise, this gorgeous young lady responded. We chatted for a while, and I got her phone number. We texted each other a lot. Just small talk in the beginning. After a while I actually thought that there was a chance she COULD be into me.
Later on she expanded her profile. We’re very different.
She’s a little younger, she’s from France, she’s black, she’s educated, she’s catholic, and she has a son. She’s also 5’10", (I’m only 5’5" and in my experience, most women don’t date men that are shorter than they are… jerks!). My profile lists everything about me. I’m also very open in my profile about my job situation, (I’m on Social Security Disability).
Still, she wanted to chat with me. I thought to myself that this girl has an open mind, and I was excited that we were talking so much. She was even a little flirty. I guess I’m not use to that type of attention. I was so happy to have met her. I was just happy such a beautiful woman could overlook some of the things that would turn most women off.
It CLEARLY says on my profile that I’m an Atheist, yet today, she asked me what my religion was. I told her that I don’t have a religion, and that I’m an Atheist. She said; “But you still believe in God, right?” I said no. She seemed very uncomfortable after that. She said God was a big part of her life, and I said that I respect that. Then homosexuality came up. She said it wasn’t “natural”. I told her she’s entitled to believe in what she wants, but I’m a big supporter of gay marriage. After that, there was just silence. I told her I had to go, (which was true), and she said; “OK.”
Now, like the title of this thread suggests, I’m a bit discouraged. Don’t get me wrong, I was prepared for this. I’m also REALLY happy a woman as beautiful as her was able to overlook some of the flaws I might possess, and I was especially happy that she was taller than me and didn’t seem to mind, (because, unlike being a few pounds overweight, I can’t help how tall I am). It just kind of sucks. I thought I had at least made a new friend, but now I’m not sure I want someone like her to be my friend.
So, I’m no longer smiling as much as I was. It’s hard for me to meet women. I mean, I understand why they might not want to date me. But I’m open about who I am and I leave it up to them to decide if they want to have anything to do with me. I don’t message them expecting them to swoon over me.
I don’t know… should I be her friend? That is - if she still wants to be friends with me. I know I couldn’t date someone who feels the way she feels about homosexuals… it’s sort of a deal-breaker for me. I don’t mind her being religious. But I’m so pissed she’s so anti-gay.