Unfortunately, AFG said she has tried initiating without good results.
The link no longer works.
Poop! AFG?
Oook…darn page…onesec…
Ok. The link should work now.
You guyyyys. Saying such nice things. I’m blushing over here. 
Still not working on this end… I’m getting “the image ‘http://website.com/users/afg/self.jpg’***** cannot be displayed, because it contains errors” when I click on it.
*****Not the real site. I’ll let her link to it herself if she wants.
Ok…I’ll post a direct link here. This should do it.
It’s working from my end.
Still not working for me, even after three or four hard refreshes and copying and pasting the URL into a new window.
It’s not working for me in Firefox but it loads fine in Opera.
I’m using Firefox too but even when I tried loading it in IE, it wouldn’t show.
Sorry if I seem obsessive. I’m just trying to help and am not a stalker. I promise.
There we go.
As cute as ever.
Okay, now I remember you. People here are not just trying to pump you up. You are a very, very attractive woman! Easily in the top five percentile.
(And you are quite a bit younger than I imagined from reading the OP, which could explain why twice a week seemed like not much. 
Every survey I’ve ever seen shows a couple times a week as the norm for healthy young couples.)
I’m another who would tend to blame Paxil and/or depression. I was on Paxil 10 or 12 years ago and it wiped my sex drive and abilities completely out! And I mean completely! It also made me sleep way too much. Much more in fact, than I would’ve even thought possible (10, 12, even 16 hours a day sometimes).
But at any rate, I think you’re on the right track to get to the bottom of the problem and I’m optimistic that things will work out well for you. But congratulations on your relationship as a whole. It sounds as if you’ve found the kind of relationship most people hope for but never find. In this regard you are indeed a very lucky woman, IMHO.
Best of luck to you. I’ve had a soft spot for you ever since your “Ask an artist” thread when you offered helpful advice to a question I had.
Regards,
SA
Another voice saying it’s probably the anti-depressants: I’ve taken just about the whole pharmacy, before finally settling on Effexor, but none of them exactly set your candle burning - mind you, some are better than others, and Effexor works for me: unfortunately, everyone responds differently.
If this is affecting your marriage - and I don’t see how it can’t be - the first thing you need to do is talk to your husband: you really need to sit him down and explain what the problem is and how it’s affecting you: don’t suffer through this until you do something that both of you may regret.
I’d suggest couples counselling, except that the problem seems to be medication-related: how good is his GP or psychiatrist? If he or she is sympathetic and understanding {and if they’re not, get him to find another one!}, I think you both need to trot in there after your talk, and see if something can’t be done with the medication - like I said before, it can take a lot of experimentation before he finds something that works for him.
After the talk and the doctor, it might be a good idea to look into counselling: if he’s having problems with a low libido - and one of the problems is that it doesn’t seem like a problem: don’t fancy sex? Oh well, one more load off my mind - or an inability to perform, he may be too embarrassed or ashamed to talk about it openly with you without help: the male ego is a terrible thing…
Them’s my two cents, anyway: having been in a similar situation, I have at least some inkling of what he may be experiencing - like I said, the important thing is to get it out in the open. {no dirty jokes, thank you} These problems aren’t insurmountable, they just need time and patience on both sides - you may not be feeling patient right now, but hang on in there - they can be worked out. All the best, anyway.
It may be Paxil, depression, or it may be just how he is. While this is definitely something you guys need to talk about, you also need to realize that there are no easy solutions and that the situation may be just as hard for him as it is for you.
I strongly suspect he doesn’t like to/ feel bad turning you down. We like to make the ones we love happy. But having sex when one partner doesn’t want to is no fun, and you cannot make him want to.
Oh, and trust him when he says it’s him, and that he just doesn’t think about it. You need to understand that this is NOT a reflection on you.
I agree, you have a beautiful smile and pretty eyes.
Sorry I have no help to offer - sending warm thoughts your way.
I lurk 99.99% of the time.
I’m coming out of lurk mode for a moment to say that AFG is not only beautiful, but she has one of the best smiles I’ve ever seen.
Back to our regularly scheduled thread.
Stop it, you’re gettin’ me hot.
I’d offer to step in, but I don’t fool around with married people unless that is a verifiable part of their deal with their spouse. Let me jump on the **AFG **is a cutie bandwagon though. Definitely.
Seriously though, it is probably a combination of factors. You certainly would not be the first person to see their partner’s libido drop soon after they married. Also, the Paxil and smoking can have sexual side effects.
Make that appointment.
Jeesh, I’m seriously blushing over here. I’m not used to compliments. Thanks for all the nice things said.
I’ve brought up my concerns to him in the past, and that’s when he always assures me that I’m attractive to him and that he loves me, he’s just “not thinking about doing it” very much.
I think probably my best bet at this point is to visit the doc with him, as was suggested, and see what can be done about his meds.
He’s also been trying to quit smoking for some time. He’s down to a pack every two days instead of his original pack a day, which I guess is pretty good.