On Cruising, and Two Things that Piss Me Off
Firstly, yes, I’m looking at you - not staring, not drooling, not wolf-whistling, I’m looking at you. It’s called “cruising.” It’s what people do (and not just gay men, mind you) when they see something that is attractive to them. (“Ooo, shiny thing!”) But for reasons of your own, you’re giving me the impression you think I’m gawking at you because there’s something wrong with you, like you’ve got four heads or something (not that there’s anything wrong with that…). What the fuck? I’m not pointing, I’m not whispering - hell, I’m smiling at you, and not in a mocking kind of way. So smile back, damn you! Stop ducking your head, stop turning away, stop giving me attitude, and if you look at me and say, “What are you lookin’ at?” I’m gonna storm off in a huff - I swear I will! Jeez, learn how to take a compliment, even if you’re not interested.
But in a broader sense, this brings me to my second point - fuck the society that tells its people they are unattractive. Fat, black, Asian, short, wearing glasses, bad hair - I really don’t care. Despite what society has told you about these things, somebody finds you attractive, and guess what? In this particular instance it happens to be me! But you’ve been told so often that because of some trait you have or some thing about you that you can’t control you’re unattractive that you’ve bought into it. Come on! For one moment believe that, yes, someone as devastatingly handsome and suave as me ( ) can find you unendingly cute and attractive and would want to ask you out (and admittedly that shyness and humility is attractive, too, but not to the point of it being a fault). Don’t give in to the bullshit the media and the public tell you - you’re a beautiful person and deserve to have people fauning all over you for your attention, dammit.
Jeez. Some of these gay bois (especially my Asian bois) really need to learn how to feel better about themselves - it’s disheartening to those of us who worship them.
(You can insert the obvious caveats here - they might not be attracted to me, they might be too shy to respond, they might have some phobia about looking at strangers in public, whatever. I’m ranting about instances obvious to what I described.)