Thanks guys, and yes **Zsofia **it has been a very difficult time for me and my family this year. You guys have no idea how helpful it is to be able to vent and cope with all of this anonymously with you all.
When I was 31, I had a surprise! pregnancy. Prior to that time, I’d always believed that I’d just die if I ever had an accidental pregnancy. Yes, things change. But it IS doable and even involves some wonderful experiences, it’s life-changing, but NOT life ruining.
Chin up, and congratulations!
Wow, what a rollercoaster. Just wanted to say I’m thinking about you in light of all of this and your other thread.
Proof you must always read the whole thread before posting.
(Not that I always do myself).
Mint Julep you might also find yourself feeling a bit weird around the time the baby would have been due, even just in a philosophical “what if…” kind of way. Maybe think about booking a trip/spa or something to treat yourself in 7-ish months time?
I updated the thread title – adding “(Wait, no, I’m not)” – to indicate recent developments.
[nonmod] Mint Julep – I’m sorry you’re going through such a tumultuous experience – wishing you peace and strength as you deal with it. [/nonmod]
Minty, I’ve been reading along silently until now. I’m sure this will take some pressure off, which is great, and I’m happy for you. Sounds wrong, yeah, but I’m still glad.
An honest question, and something it’s easier for a total stranger to ask anonymously - if you don’t want kids, why don’t one of you get sterilized? Do you think you might change your mind?
I mentioned in an earlier post that we are considering IUD insertion or him getting snipped. We thought we were being safe enough with me on the pill, and for over 10 years that worked fine. But given this accident, we are discussing a more permanent option. Maybe this solidified any doubts we ever had about our choice to not have kids. We are safe regardless for the time being. I have felt pretty crappy for days now. I stayed on the couch all weekend and I am contemplating taking a sick day and going home after I complete my mandatory work tasks. I feel quite nauseated and like I may be coming down with something.
Yeah, I just saw that post about snipping, thanks.
Take it easy. Hope you feel better soon.