Not wanting to step on toes, but I have learned that sometimes its better to be alone then "with someone and be lonely, Keep your head up so when the right one comes your way they'll see your smile and not pass you byWell said.
Scotti, of course you can come!
[sub]I didn’t say the hot tub didn’t work. I said I’d never tried to see if it worked. Some friends came round a couple of weeks ago and insisted on filling it up and trying it. It works. But we still have to drain it and clean it, then fill it up again and put in chemicals.[/sub]
Hot tubs are great when there is more then one person it.........
Okay, that’s me, my two friends and their wives, Flami, Scotti, and Scribble. I think I need a bigger hot tub!
I fell in love with what I perceived to be his personality and humor. He still has that; in fact, he made me laugh today with some inadvertent Nine Inch Nails reference. 
But I didn’t know about what was under the surface, I’d guess…
Opinions Vary: I’ve heard that before, too. I have a feeling I might be an utter wreck this weekend, but who knows? I may be strong in front of my friends. 
Johnny L.A.: Certainly sounds like it, yes! Bring on the bigger hot tubs!
You emphatically do not need a bigger hot tub! Trust me! At least as long as the male female ratio is the way it is now.
Actually, personality and humor could well be what was under the surface, and you just didn’t know the surface. (or the one or two MSOs)
I don’t know if a doper availability thread exists already, actually. I was just thinking it could be a good idea.
Ohmigosh! I could have written this myself. This is almost exactly what happened to me last week. Communication, not seeing, no responses, etc…I know how you feel, but i know that doesn’t make it any easier at all. At one time you think the world is right, then it slowly starts turning upside down. The worst part is you’re sitting there wondering what’s going on in his/her mind and not knowing, and that’s drove me absolutly nuts!
It will get eaiser, but it’s one step forward two steps back. No time for you and no communication IS a good reason to break up, don’t feel bad. You probably did the right thing, (but hey, all i know about you is what you told me here.) And afterall, it’s sooooooo easy to find the right person, right?
You seem to have given him the benefit of the doubt, time to respond, talked to him, emailed him, etc… If he still doesn’t come around, well…You tried and that’s all you can do. You can always change your mind, maybe some time alone for him will kick him in the pants.
For me it was similar, I’ll allow you to trod in the dread I call my life. I was sending plenty of messages, cards, things, you name it. Would fly over at the drop of a hat. But she’s too busy to email, make time, anything. I got maybe 2 sentences a week and seldom an answer to something I asked her. Finally I actually asked if she was satisfied, where is this going, and something else. 4 days later she responded and blew up, why don’t i support her in her quest for a new job in Israel, How can I ask that, and other things all the while not answering the 3 questions i asked. Man, all I want to know is if we’re ever going to be together. So I said, I’m not happy, this isn’t going where I want, let’s be friends and if something happens, great. I know nothing will. Absolutley no communication, and I’m a guy saying this!
Take some time Flamesterette, you’ve sure gotten a lot of responses so people here have your back. good luck. But it really sucks, doesn’t it?? and it never gets easier. I hear you.
No worries. 
Psssst… 80% success rate… Just sayin’…
Haha, maybe so. What’s an MSO? Just curious.
Heh, you can start one if you’re available. I know bodypoet started one quite a while ago which ended up well for her at least! Maybe that’s the one you’re thinking of.
The Big Cheese: Oh, believe me. I tried every which way I knew of (and then some!) to try and get him to be more communicative. I know it might be “a guy thing” (I’m not stereotyping, honest!) to not be into communication, but from what you’ve told me, girls can also be uncommunicative. Thanks for sharing your story… you’re right, this does suck. Right now, I still feel sad… and wondering if it does get easier! Eep. Email me if you would, please… thanks.
ArrMatey!: Heh. I read that one yesterday. Might be up for a re-read, actually. Thanks muchly for the link.
Flami, I just popped in to say something, and realised that others had said it before me, and said it better than me: “Its better to be alone than to be in a relationship and wish you were alone”. You’ve done the right thing for yourself, yeah, things will be rough, but you’re a great person, and things will get easier.
Oh, and something NoClueBoy told me when I broke up with my last boyfriend was “date Dopers!” I did. It works.
I’m not sure I ever WISHED it as such, but maybe my subconscious thought about that? shrug
Other than the communication / reliability issues, he was a good guy. Too bad, really… but I just couldn’t keep up the relationship with the way things had gotten to be. Ah well, I’ll see how things go.
Haha, I should take NCB’s advice then… or start that thread Arwin was referencing. Maybe later.